[jcpstr]

So, I am new here, and just wanted to give a little background. I've always had anxiety. Mom and Grandmom did too. Growing up, it was expected that I do what I was supposed to, not fight back, stay quiet, etc. I was shy and so I was protected from what my family perceived as harm (other people who might take advantage of me). So, this has been something I've battled all my life. I had an emotional breakdown last year, I really was in bad shape, couldn't function, didn't want to leave, even take my son to the barber. Took meds for a while. Now my son is 3, and I still have pretty bad social anxiety, and it's hard for me to take him places, although I try (like playground, Tumbling Tots at gym). As a result, he is still pretty awkward with other kids, although he is getting better. He is shy, too, and I'm concerned about him going down the same path as I did. Of course, I'm not a very good example now! Trying to stay positive, and stop worrying about things. Worried that kids will not like him or tease him. I don't know why. I have a hard time talking to people myself. I don't know. I guess I'm just looking for advice. Thanks!

[littlemssunshine]

First off, welcome to PC! I'm so happy you found our community!!

I had a very similar issue with my anxiety, so I can totally relate. Are you presently seeing a therapist, because I would highly recommend seeking help to discuss your past fears/anxiety and your present worries for your son. I think he/she will be ale to guide you best and help you to work out the best way to handle these situations, as well as grow + help you get to a place where you feel like you can set a good example for your son. Likewise, since you said that your mom and grandma both suffered from anxiety, it is entirely possible that it's in your son's genes to inherit an anxiety disorder (and it's entirely possible that it skipped over him too)!

I think it would be in your best interests to work through and improve your social anxiety, so that you can live in happiness and confidence. Once you get to a solid, healthy place, you will be able to set a great example for your son. You are making great strides just by seeking out help here, identifying your goals of wanting to help yourself + your son, and working on staying positive and decreasing your worrying. You are going to do great!! It's great that you want to improve your health, and your son is definitely lucky to have a great mom like you.

[jelly-bean]

I just want to tell you congratulations! You are taking huge steps toward learning to live better for yourself and your son. You should be very proud of yourself and keep it up.

[bananabrd77]

I am pretty sure social anxiety is usually helped best through therapy and also working with support groups like Obsessive Compulsive Anonymous, Social Phobics Anonymous and others like these. I understand that it can be difficult to live with social anxiety. I hope you can find the support you are looking for because I have heard of stories of people who using therapy and support groups have learned to overcome social anxiety. Welcome to the group and keep us updated!