[Heather11]

I could feel it coming on today and it was mostly just becsuse im stressed over a man. I felt less productive and focused at work...Ive been doing great the past 2 weeks. Productive at work and home and managing to date. I've felt "normal" and it wasnt taking a lot of effort to be that way. Ive felt more confident and Secure...Now I'm juggling dating and I've met someone I like and I hate not knowing if he is actively seeing someone else... And to top it off, my ex lost his job and so I won't have child support so I'm projecting even more stress and anxiety. . Plus he tells our son all the details about losing the job and money and on and on. Just what a13yo needs to hear.
The wave of anxiety is swelling and I Hate feeling it and want it to stop!

[lostinbooks]

Wow. This post is overwhelming enough to trigger my anxiety. A few things hit close to home.

Let's try to take this in steps. I know the feeling if oncoming anxiety. It's awful. But you have a chance to try some coping skills before it gets too bad. Take some time for yourself. Ignore some housework, take a hot bath, go for a walk, listen to music you find soothing. Just breathe and slow your mind down. Do you have a therapist you can call?

As for the other things in your post. Flat out ask your guy if you two are exclusive or if he still wants to see other people. You are in the relationship too and have a right to know.

Talk to your 13 year old. Even if your ex doesn't say anything he will pick up on the stress. Be honest, but let him know everything will be alright (even if you don't believe it yet). Kids think their parents can fix everything. He doesn't need to worry.

Remember how you felt two weeks ago. You will feel that way again soon. Good luck. Messege me if you want to talk. I know how you are feeling.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Hugs for you both.

Good luck!

Originally Posted by Heather11

I could feel it coming on today and it was mostly just becsuse im stressed over a man. I felt less productive and focused at work...Ive been doing great the past 2 weeks. Productive at work and home and managing to date. I've felt "normal" and it wasnt taking a lot of effort to be that way. Ive felt more confident and Secure...Now I'm juggling dating and I've met someone I like and I hate not knowing if he is actively seeing someone else... And to top it off, my ex lost his job and so I won't have child support so I'm projecting even more stress and anxiety. . Plus he tells our son all the details about losing the job and money and on and on. Just what a13yo needs to hear.
The wave of anxiety is swelling and I Hate feeling it and want it to stop!

Hi Heather11, you have my sympathy and hugs. I'm dealing with some of that, I have an ex who refuses to pay support to our 12 year old and has to give all the details about not having money and other things to our child, I wish he would keep that to himself. Hope you feel better soon.