[shortandcute]

I'm having a really bad time right now. This morning I went to an AA meeting; one lady who's got five years sober accidently said she had five days--but she corrected herself and everyone kind of joked about it. I am coming on four years and I teased her and said, "Oh, yeah, in 3 weeks I'll have four days." Well, one guy got confused and asked me about it--I said Not really, I'm coming on four years (everyone else knew I was just kidding and was just going with the flow). Afterward, he accused me of drinking again and I said I wasn't--then he hollared at me and said "You shouldn't say that, people will believe you!" I have been suffering anxiety all day over this.

[Redsoft]

People can be such jerks! Don't think you're crazy or something - that guy over-stepped boundaries, especially for a support group environment. When something like that happens, like that kind of vibe directed at me, I get really upset too (plus I have acute anger issues), usually bothered for the whole day, so I hope you're taking it easy and just trying to get some R&R. Maybe he has a guilty conscience...?

In my perfect, narcissistic world inside my head, next session I would accuse him of drinking extremely sarcastically in front of everyone; but, that would be sinking to his level. You can dream right?

[Little Lulu]

It feels particularly yucky when your support group doesn't feel supportive. I am in a 12 step group also and conflict can arise there but I sure don't like it when it does. I try to remember that we are all humans with problems who are trying to get better -- that helps some. The other thing that helps is to call my sponsor and talk it out.

Whatever is going on right now that is causing my anxiety will pass, it always does ... but I forget that part.

[not quite right]

Sounds like a classic case of deflection. I don't believe just because you're in recovery you have to give up your sense of humor. His outburst was more about him than you, I'd guess. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't beat yourself up over it. Keep up the good work. 4 years is an amazing victory in sobriety & I hope your success continues. Warm thoughts to you.

[Mbroken2]

You should of asked him if he had been drinking and to relax it was just a joke. There is absolutely no reason for you to even think twice about this over strung idiot. He mad to much out of nothing maybe I hadn't thought about it he was on his 4th day and really struggling.

[Jenatorre]

I belong to an online fellowship for gaming addiction, and I get bullied there when people do not like what I write on my blog. Thank God I found this group again on my birthday!!! The disadvantage to a recovery group is that everyone is sick, so we do not always know how to handle other people. I am sorry you were mistreated by another addict in recovery.