[why6]

There are tons of people who I know and consider myself to be friends with. However, it takes me forever to become close with people. I can't tell if I'm scared of taking the first steps in further developing a friendship or if I'm just not good at it. People always make such quick, close friendships while I sit and watch it happen. I think the root of the problem is my unwillingness to approach people before they approach me, so it seems like i don't want to talk to them even though I really do. I just don't know what the cause of the unwillingness is (am i scared? shy? just plain antisocial and reserved?) so I don't know how to overcome it.
I don't know if I'm making any sense here- this is just a stream of consciousness so I apologize if I'm a tad unclear.

[kimburly]

I'm the exact same way and sometimes, I do feel awful about it. :/ But although I don't have social anxiety, I find it very hard to maintain friends. I can make em easily but keeping em is another story.

[Dianerrs]

Makes sense to me.

I'm really uncomfortable around other people, and really unsure of myself. There are loads of people in my life that I care for fiercely, but I can't seem to get close to them, or build the friendship I would love to have, with anyone really. I catch myself making excuses not o do things when invited out, etc. I'm not really sure why.

So...at least you're not alone?

[why6]

Thanks for the support I've found myself coming out of my shell a bit lately, so hopefully it'll last!