[RamblinClementine]

Not sure if this should go under a different category, but my anxiety has been off the hook.

It's been triggered by my homeless brother telling me he's really mad at me because I was abusive to him when he was little (and I was little) and then when I've been available to him to talk he's been unresponsive.

My uncle, who I distrust after he swindled my grandma-who-raised-me's will and took all of the property/inheritence, has been calling me about my brother's circumstance and mental health. He interjects himself into my life and tells me what he thinks I need to do with myself. I'm 30 years old!

I feel like my boundaries are bad and all this is really getting to me. I've been depressed but also just obsessively thinking about it all. I just want to hide and live my little peaceful life away from them all, but at the same time I'm worried about my brother.

I've been projecting and just walking on edge

[gayleggg]

I can understand your having anxiety. Family can produce a lot. Sorry about your brother but I don't see that there is much you can do. You might want to block your uncle's number from your phone.

I had relatives try to tell me what to do with my father as he got to old to take care of himself but that is all they wanted to do is talk. None voluteered to come stay a while so I could get out of the house. So I understand about pushy family members.

Do what you need to do for your peace of mind.

[Little Lulu]

You are not the cause of your brother's issues, if that is what he is implying. If you are 30 I suppose he is near your age ... means he is an adult and now responsible (or should be) for his own issues. Most of us who grew up with siblings were not necessarily kind to one another - I know my sister and I had our issues but I don't hold her responsible for my outcomes and I think she feels the same.

Be gentle with yourself, if possible. As for the uncle, you can always say 'thanks for the advice' and then do what you think is right for you. Might keep him off your back. Hugs. Family is exasperating at times.