[Real_not_perfect]

I've always felt like I was just a bother to people, especially to my friends, recently more than ever. I talked to one of my friends about it because I was tired of being so avoid-ant and I needed someone to at least know how I felt. They have told me that I am not a bother to them, but I feel like deep down they think I really am. They told me that I should remember that I really am not a bother, but how can I actually convince myself this? I really want to start fixing myself but I can't do that without any advice.

[jelly-bean]

It sounds like you might have a self-esteem problem. If you are in therapy it could be something you can discuss with your T. Try posting in the self-esteem forum and see what advice others can give you.

[K2TOG]

I often feel the same way you do. I don't want to "bother" people or want to ask questions. Some of it comes from my parents growing up and I heard those word from them. Like, don't call anyone one after a certain time in the evening or you will be bothering them. It's funny how those things stick with us.

I agree with Jelly-Bean and it may be a self esteem issue. It is for me. I still sometimes feel inferior to other people. This too comes from things my parents said when I was growing up. I basically felt like I was lower class and everybody else was better than me.

Then when I hit my teen years it was terrible at school and wanting to fit in. My feeling of inferiority became even worse.

Now that I am older it does not brother me as much but it's still there. I suggest finding a good counselor.