[CharactorAssassin]

Is a Narcissist seen as a bad person by most people?

I've never thought much about it but looking at the characteristics of a person with Narcissistic personality disorder according to the DSM they aren't people I'd want to hang out with

• Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
• Taking advantage of others to reach own goals
• Exaggerating own importance, achievements, and talents
• Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance
• Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
• Becoming jealous easily
• Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others
• Being obsessed with self
• Pursuing mainly selfish goals
• Trouble keeping healthy relationships
• Becoming easily hurt and rejected
• Setting goals that are unrealistic
• Wanting "the best" of everything
• Appearing unemotional

In addition to these symptoms, the person may also display dominance, arrogance, show superiority, and seek power.

[-jimi-]

NPD people can be awful especially if you need them for something. Like if they are your doc. If you need to kiss hiney to get your prescription. That stuff. More low key NPD in no power position can be more benign, although, no... I'd run probably.

But say someone actually is a wiz at something and proud with a few narcissistic traits. Then why not? They deserved it.

[BLUEDOVE]

I think it is the SICKEST mental condition I've
ever came across.I married 2 of them(yeah,I know,I was blind back then),consequently when
we split up,both of them turned all my children
into narcissists too. So I never see them,the X's
have seen to that.Now the kids are as nuts as
their mothers are.It's like they have all been
killed;because they are no longer who they
were,they are imitations of their mothers,and I
can't tell you the pain that gives me.
BLUEDOVE

[C.Oliver]

I am married to a man who is one step away from a NPD label. He is VERY difficult to live with. He crushes my self esteem on a regular basis and I can never ask him to do anything for me. OUR WHOLE LIVES ARE ABOUT HIM.

He also has ADD which adds a whole other layer.

I am a flimsy, wimpy, follow along person so our marriage has worked and we have no kids to warp so I just deal with it. Occasionally when I need something we have a huge knock down drag out fight just so I can get what I need and then it is back to being all about him again.

I love him though so I deal with it...

C and Oliver (my Service Dog)

If you are a N, you are a delight to be around yourself. And others that share your traits. Vampires.

[Open Eyes]

They can seem very "charming" and have this "fake caring" about them too. But they are actually "cold" and don't really see the needs of others.

It is important to remember that all people have "some" narcisistic qualities to them and it is when someone has too much of it that they become a danger to be around or toxic in a relationship or friendship etc. They are all about "power and show" so alot of them are drawn to "politics" or gravitate to areas where there are competitions they can win in, hense Lance Armstrong and Tiger Woods, only true to "themselves and status".

Anyone can react to criticism with anger and shame, anyone who has been genuinely hurt can feel rejected. Someone who has truely been victimized can act self absorbed and struggle to trust in a way that can make them "appear" to look narcisistic. So it is very important to "not" just judge a person simply because they are angry or struggling either. Anyone can set goals that appear to be unreasonable too, it doesnt always mean they are narcisistic, they could actually be highly driven confident people that are actually "healthy" minded and might have some narcisistic tendencies but are not lacking in empathy with a disregard or respect for others.

It is not uncommon if someone is raised by a narcisist that they get triggered if they see any traits that may remind them of this toxic person that never really nurtured them. A strong minded person who works hard and gains some success doesn't mean they are a narcisist.

Typically someone who has been raised by a narcisist can become a very "confused" person. The reason for this is because the narcisist never showed them true love and appreciation so they often struggle with self esteem or sense of self worth, not their fault.

OE