[trashking]

I went to turn in an excuse for being absent yesterday and i was feeling good and kinda confident before actually walking into the office but once i got up to the other student in the attendance office i paused awkwardly my anxiety was being dumb and i tried to speak up quickly to not be weird and ended up saying kinda quiet and high pitched "is-is this-can i turn in an an excuse? " really quickly and did a really weird like...over exagerated blink i don't know wHY and he said yeah to just write my ID so i shakily grab a pen and turn it around to write,But it's cap is still on and i was trying to write with the wrong end and i uncapped it and wrote it can he said tthanks and i kinda nodded and quietly and with voice cracks said "thAnkS."
Man i feel so dumb , THIS is just me talking about my dumb anxiety and feeling horrible and embarrassed and I'm sure the attendance guy already forgot but oh my god this was so humiliating.

[CANDC]

Hey. that sounds like many people I know in an awkward social situation. In a month or two that may not even be a memory.

My own preoccupation with what people thought of me, my therapist drew out how much that stemmed from overbearing parents with super control and no flexibility. Therapy helped me to get my life back and not just be living in the shadow of my parents.

Sometimes I calm myself with this:

Breathing exercise with natural breathing do not force.
If you are feeling very anxious or angry or just want to calm down, you can try a breathing exercise that takes the attention away from the trigger of anxiety to a simple tool of counting breaths.

Find a comfortable position seated or laying down. Begin to relax your breathing. Silently count 1 on the inhale, and two on the exhale. Then silently count 3 on the inhale and 4 on the exhale. Continue up to 10 or until you lose the count then return to one. No judgement. I sometimes end up at 18 then smile and return to 1. The idea is to focus on the breath and the counting and not get sucked into the anxiety or anger trigger. Also works to quiet the mind.

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[Dan208]

I often get tongue tied in situations like that, and I'll get really hot and my face starts flushing. It sucks.