[mattjstead]

My wife is a teacher and just got out of school yesterday.
Since September I have been part-time stay at home Dad and part-time online business.
Today she has been sleeping most of the day and I've been watching the little one. She came through the house and immediately started asking questions likes, "Why is the floor cluttered with toys?" "Why haven't you opened the mail?" "Do you just let *Insert out sons name* do what ever he wants? Or do you really watch him?" "Where did this book come from? When did you buy it?" (I read a alot, it is a big stress relief for me). And it was just one thing after the other.
She then began cleaning manicly (throwing things in random places, vaccuming, and even moving things on my desk) ((By the way I haven't been diagnosed with OCD although after proof-reading this I seem to get a hint of it..hmm)). I flat out began panicing. I felt like everything was falling in around me and I couldn't breath. Between being accused of not watching our son to being scolded for not doing enough around the house (I watch our son, take him to his daycare/activities, clean, dishes, bills., finances, etc) and then to be put on the spot and told that I wasn't doing enough just put me in a spiral. I just can't handle the constant beating down. I figured since I had let her sleep most of the day (10PM last night to 11AM and then another nap from 2PM to 5:30PM) I figured she'd be thankful. I try my best but I guess it isn't good enough, I don't know what to do.
The panic and feeling of complete loss of sanity and I took a Xanax (2MG) but I am feeling no better what so ever.

Sorry to vent I just needed to write this down and get any tips/ideas/tricks/etc.

Blessings,
Matt S.

[wa(o)rrior]

Dear friend

When people are stressed out they react in unpleasant ways. they feel irritated and find fault in everything. don't take it hard on yourself.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by mattjstead

My wife is a teacher and just got out of school yesterday.
Since September I have been part-time stay at home Dad and part-time online business.
Today she has been sleeping most of the day and I've been watching the little one. She came through the house and immediately started asking questions likes, "Why is the floor cluttered with toys?" "Why haven't you opened the mail?" "Do you just let *Insert out sons name* do what ever he wants? Or do you really watch him?" "Where did this book come from? When did you buy it?" (I read a alot, it is a big stress relief for me). And it was just one thing after the other.
She then began cleaning manicly (throwing things in random places, vaccuming, and even moving things on my desk) ((By the way I haven't been diagnosed with OCD although after proof-reading this I seem to get a hint of it..hmm)). I flat out began panicing. I felt like everything was falling in around me and I couldn't breath. Between being accused of not watching our son to being scolded for not doing enough around the house (I watch our son, take him to his daycare/activities, clean, dishes, bills., finances, etc) and then to be put on the spot and told that I wasn't doing enough just put me in a spiral. I just can't handle the constant beating down. I figured since I had let her sleep most of the day (10PM last night to 11AM and then another nap from 2PM to 5:30PM) I figured she'd be thankful. I try my best but I guess it isn't good enough, I don't know what to do.
The panic and feeling of complete loss of sanity and I took a Xanax (2MG) but I am feeling no better what so ever.

Sorry to vent I just needed to write this down and get any tips/ideas/tricks/etc.

Blessings,
Matt S.

Wow, I'd be upset, too! Did you tell her how it was making you feel, both what she was saying and what she was doing with the cleaning? Is she often like this, or is this unusual behavior for her? Does she usually sleep that much? And how will you be handling childcare while she's off for the summer?

If she continues like this, then I'd recommend marriage counseling if she'd be willing to go.

[healingme4me]

Sounds like a lot of sleeping. I agree about couples counseling. If something else is troubling her, she'd need skills to express that in an appropriate manner. And you'd need skills to safely and effectively express in the moment. And both could learn the art of active listening .
If the anti anxiety at that dose, didn't help, then perhaps address with your pdoc? Could be underlying depression. What sometimes feels like anxiety is dread and it's a depression symptom.

[Crazy Hitch]

Oh dear mattjstead

I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation you've been put in now that your wife is on holiday and you're getting interrupting comments. I think you've been doing your best juggling the demands of looking after your kids and keeping the business afloat.

The only thing I can think to suggest is maybe you have a conversation, timing is important, about what you and her want whilst she is on holiday. Otherwise perhaps she will continue to place these demands on you without realising how anxious and already stressed you are? And the two of you can reach some kind of consensus, where both parties are happy with how the rest of the holiday whilst your wife is at home will go.

You deserve to have peace of mind.