[BeyondRedemption]

and i really don't know what to do
she was fine until the end of last summer. in august/september, there was a massive "mosher" vs "ned" war amoungst teenagers in my stupid little town. (moshers being us punks skaters emos metalheads goths and any combination of them all. and the neds all being tracksuit wearing and dance music listening). the neds came after us in massive groups with knives and chains and all that crap. and we all ran. thankfully no one was seriously hurt that night. but caeleigh was more scared about coming out than the rest of us. but she did still come out. but after she seen me get beat up, she stopped coming out. and she's only been out a few times since. she goes to school and she comes out during the day but apart from that, she just panics. i tried helping her, but because i still went out almost every night, we drifted apart. which i feel REALLY bad for now coz the people i was drifting to were the ones that caused me to believe she was making it up coz she didn't wanna be out with us anymore, and the ones who have just stabbed me in the back. the other week i managed to get her out twice, but the weekend came and she didn't come out coz that's when the neds would come coz they would be drunk. i thought fair enough, at least she's out during the week, that's a start. but she's not been out since. i don't know what to do anymore. i feel like i've tried everything. please help me, i hate seeing her like this

-steph
xxx

[Soidhonia]

Hello Beyond. It is possible that your friend has been traumatized by the previous events and feels threatened in some manner, and needs professional help in sorting out her fears and feelings. Is there someone that your friend can talk to at this time to help her understand her feelings at this time? I am glad that you are trying to help her as well I am sure that means a lot to your friend during this time of need. Take care and good day. Soidhonia

[recluse1]

i agree with soid. your friend needs to talk to a professional. anxiety and fears, whether irrational or warranted, can be crippling. unless she can come to terms with this and learn how to cope she could very well end up completely unable to leave her home. check out info on augorifobia. her problem may be serious.

recluse1

[BeyondRedemption]

thanks for replying guys
she has admitted she needs to talk to a professional but she tried telling her mum and she only said she was over-reacting. she isn't a bad mother or anything, i think she just doesn't want to believe that there is anything wrong with her daughter, especially as her son has ADHD. i think she just wanted a "normal" child, whatever that is. anyway...i think that made it worse and has cut her chance of being able to speak to a professional.
when the group were hanging out across the road from the police station, she came out because she felt slightly safer (even though she knew the police did absaloutly NOTHING when we were chased away from there) but now that the group has moved she doesn't wanna come out because we are too close to where it all happened
i really don't know what to do anymore. i've tried convincing her to come out every so often, rather than every night, to gradually get her used to coming out
i've tried telling her that as soon as we see neds we'll leave coz there's tonnes of ways to exit, and they're never clever enough to cover them all
i've tried getting other people from the group to ask her to come out to show her that no one will let anyone hurt her
i've tried making her realise that no one has been hurt since last summer
when she does come out, i go up for her and walk her down, then walking her right to her door afterwards, so do 2 guys from the group
i just feel like i've tried everything
i feel so useless

-steph
xxx