i have anxiety over my last rights.

you know, funeral arangements, how i want my body to be got rid of, etc.

i know that i'm not going to be here to actually see it happen (so can't really tell them, no, i don't want this) something like that, but it does concern me- it's the 1 thing in my life that i want to get right, and i feel if i can't do this- i can't do anything

i keep thinking that once i'm dead the funeral people will go against my wishes and just do what they see best

[Unrigged64072835]

Have you looked into getting a will? You could put your wishes in that and it's very hard to challenge legally. I'm not sure which country you're in but in the US there are sites that draw up a will for a reasonable price.

[bigblackdog]

A will is legally binding, despite what others may want.....since you are concerned about final arrangements, it should be a simple matter to specify.

As someone who dealt with my father's arrangements, and his wife who did not like what he wanted, Dad put it in his will and that was the end of it. We also had to spend some time researching Catholic funerary practice. Dad was buried at a National Cemetery and she did not want him buried there because she thought it was unconsecrated ground. We had to find the specific canon that addressed burial in military cemeteries.....it was a nightmare.

So having gone through that, write down what you want your final arrangements to be....method and place of burial, memorial or open-casket, music, flowers, ritual words or acts....it's actually very helpful for the survivor's.

Originally Posted by Fharraige

Have you looked into getting a will? You could put your wishes in that and it's very hard to challenge legally. I'm not sure which country you're in but in the US there are sites that draw up a will for a reasonable price.

thank you for this idea.

i'm in the UK, so will have a look for a simular website