worried all the time

I'm 28 years old, male have a girlfriend for 6 years and a steady (unfulfilling) job for the last 4 years. I went to school for psychology and graduated 5 years ago, but didn't pursue any post-graduate studies or internships for some reason. Started working for a local bank and I absolutely hate it but feel trapped and don't know how to get out of it. A lot of my friends are moving around to different companies, making significantly more $ than I, getting married, having children and generally seem very happy. I try to appear happy when I'm around them, but on the inside and when I'm alone, I just feel crappy all the time and can't seem to break the cycle and make progress. I've been to psychotherapy on and off for the last 10 years, and have also been on and off medication for around the same time (currently been off for year and a half and don't want to go back on). I just generally want to be happy and enjoy my life, not worry about others and my life too much, but everyday is a struggle. I am terrible at making life decisions. I have no idea if I want to get married, have a serious career, buy a home, and various other adult decisions. I feel like my life is a huge seesaw, rocking back and forth, getting nothing done, and feeling left in the dust.

A lot of people have troubles like this in their twenties. In their twenties, a lot of people are still figuring out who they are and what direction they want to go in their lives. Your friends who seem so confident and "together" may end up changing their decisions later because it's hard to know exactly what you want in your twenties.

That being said, it sounds like you need to/want to do some soul-searching to figure out what you want to make you happy. What about going back to school? I know getting in debt sucks (if you have to get student loans), but you have to look at what you want in the long term for your happiness. Debt now may be more than worth it in the long run.

Try journaling and getting daily exercise. Journaling can help you get in touch with your true feelings and exercise can help relieve stress and increase happy feelings. I would also talk to a trusted friend for advice to help you figure out what you really want. I think deep down, you know what you want. You just need to listen to yourself and take the time to figure it out.

Best wishes!! You can do it!!

One thing that makes life decisions more difficult is comparing yourself with others. You are on your own path so try to ignore the path others are on because it will confuse your decision-making. Choices made on what seems to have worked for others can make you 'lose yourself' in the decision. Choices made based on others opinions or society's opinions can make you 'lose yourself' in the decision. Try to cut through all that fog of other people's voices and expectations. Let your inner feelings and thoughts guide the decisions.

I hope this helps some. I struggle with decisions too and am trying to work on listening to my own inner voice through that fog.

In my experience, comparing myself to others just gets me into a mess of troubles.

From reading your post, it sounds to me like your job is the biggest obstacle in your life. What would it take to change careers? Just that one thing, to start with. I have a feeling the other issues will become less of a burden once you are doing work that is fulfilling.

i wish i could work, but my disability wont let me i hope you can find enjoyable work good luck