Weird Fellings for the first time in my life

Hello, I'm new here and I've been felling a little weird lately.

I'm Male 31, high school teacher. I spend the last May and june not working because of a work related injury to my back and I'm still doing physio every day. So I've had way too much time to think, I'm use to doing sports every day.

I'm trying to make this short but I've never been so anxious in my life. Every little things are getting me anxious, mostly money and why am I here?. My girlfriend and I moved in to our first home a year ago. We both make decent salaries and have no problems in living and doing it all plus putting a good 20% per paycheck in our savings accounts.

It's very unrational and I know but it stresses me out. I get to crisis where I want to sell all my stuff to make sure I have enough money... but the thing is, it doesn't matter if I have 15000$ in my back account or 100 000$ I would still fell axious.

And now we started talking about having a baby... this doesn't help. What if we can't provide for the new born?

Any one has been through this that can offer some kind of advice ?

Thanks

Hi Polihale,

Just wanted to welcome you to PC..its really great here, and I am sure you will find some wonderful support. Sorry, I can't offer any advice on your anxiety.....but I am confident there are people here who can!

Welcome again!

Hello Polihale and Welcome to PC!

I hope that soon you are feeling better (physcially). I'm a believer that the body and mind work together and this time that you are layed up could have been the trigger to your anxiety about money.

In the mean time, if you haven't done so already and when you are in a relatively logical, non anxiety mood, sit down and write out your goals either alone or with your girlfriend. Notice that you are already planning for the future by putting a good chunk into savings. Keep the list posted somewhere that you have access to see it every day as a reminder that you are doing everything you possibly can to reach your goals and to continue to be independent.

The next thing I would do is to really soulsearch about having children. Is this something you really want to do at this time, or are you apprehensive about it for other reasons than just the cost of raising a child? Could something else be triggering this anxiety in you?

We all worry about money and our futures. It's a natural thing to think about. Of course when it becomes an obsessive issue, everything can look skewed and unrealistic. Maybe talking to a financial planner would help you feel less anxious about things. Get their perspective on what you are doing with your money. You may find that you really have little to worry about and that might help your anxiety to lift.

I hope you find some answers and some peace. Know that you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. I'm sure others here will have some great ideas for you. Keep posting, it does help!

Wishing you all the best.

Hugss
J

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I'm trying to make this short but I've never been so anxious in my life. Every little things are getting me anxious, mostly money and why am I here?. My girlfriend and I moved in to our first home a year ago. We both make decent salaries and have no problems in living and doing it all plus putting a good 20% per paycheck in our savings accounts.

It's very unrational and I know but it stresses me out. I get to crisis where I want to sell all my stuff to make sure I have enough money... but the thing is, it doesn't matter if I have 15000$ in my back account or 100 000$ I would still fell axious.

And now we started talking about having a baby... this doesn't help. What if we can't provide for the new born?

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Do you remember if your parents, or one of them, was anxious about money?

Oh yeah, my dad was always worried abou cash but we always had more than enough, not rich but definitaly not poor. I know you learn a lot from your parents behavior but I Was never like that until recently.

Thanks for help and answers.

I'm trying to keep myself busy and not let my mind play tricks on me.. when I'm doing things I don't really think about all of this.

I would defiantly avoid the baby thing until you have figured out your life. My anxiety started after I had a baby, and it gets harder and more stressful every year (he is 2 1/2). Kids generally increase anxiety.