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Jul 29, 2017, 12:11 PM
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Hello,
I am beginning to realize one of my issues is self-worth. I know I'm worthy, I just don't "feel" worthy (if that makes sense). There are two things that bring this to the forefront for me right now: 1) I am looking for work and I want someone to want me. To see me as having the potential to be a valuable employee. 2) I am wanting a relationship with someone. I'm "in the dating scene" so to speak (online, mostly). Again, I meet people I like, but it's wanting someone who really wants me, too. What bothers me is that I had a professor in my past who saw potential in me, who hired me as a Master's student, and then I became overwhelmed by my thesis work. I made many mistakes, they lost faith in me, and I lost faith in me. It makes me wonder... who would want me? Do I want me? Why should someone want me? |
 BrokeTech, Foo Fighter, Persephone518, Sunflower123
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#2
Jul 29, 2017, 04:42 PM
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Loving yourself for your limitations (or in spite of them) would help. Self-worth is an inside job. You have to know you're still worth being alive and well even if nobody says you are. You're a good person and you have worth. If you can afford a therapist, you can work with them on that.
We can also support you with positive stuff, but you have to believe in it yourself. That's going to take some conscious effort in revising how you think and feel. |
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Jul 29, 2017, 06:16 PM
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I used to live a couple of hours from Midland and wanted to stay in Michigan but had to leave because there was not much going on jobs-wise. I don't know how much things have improved, but I'm sure it's just hard to find work around there.
Bad experiences with one job doesn't mean you can't do other totally different jobs and doesn't mean you won't be able to get any of them. Employers don't know what you did wrong at this other job. Dating-wise, I feel very worthy but don't feel wanted at all. I agree, you want someone who wants you back and at least as much as you want them. I feel like that's not going to happen, though (I don't want or need a pep talk on it, though--I am accepting it). Personally, I think there is a big disconnect between wanting people who are worthy and how people are actually choosing people who aren't, so I could never take my dating issues to be a reflection of my worth. People seem to be picking others based on things that have nothing to do with being a good person or a good potential mate. |
 Persephone518
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Aug 01, 2017, 02:26 PM
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Nov 06, 2017, 11:23 AM
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I have difficulty with self worth on a daily basis, some days are better than others but the prevailing feeling is not a good one, at it has led me down many a wrong path and will probably again.
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| Foo Fighter, Persephone518
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