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Oct 15, 2017, 10:41 AM
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I’ve started experiencing intense anxiety with a woman in work. She is nice but can be intimidating and has been quite harsh with me before which I think has made me feel anxious around her.
At the end of the day in work we have to read out a handover of the days events and with everyone else it’s fine, but with her when I start reading I go red and my voice trembles and I just can’t do it. I’ve started saying “I’m sorry I’m so tired I can’t read this” which is a terrible excuse and will not keep working. I will be doing a handover with her in a few days and I’m already dreading it, almost going as far as to think I will need to get off work early to avoid it. The whole thing takes less than 5 minutes and when I talk to her I’m absolutely fine it’s just reading out this handover. I don’t know what to do it feels impossible to overcome right now. 
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Oct 15, 2017, 01:28 PM
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Maybe you try to talk to her about this issue in private. I had a boss who intimidated me and could get quite harsh when I screwed up. I actually brought it up to him in a performance review. So we were alone. I ended up crying and felt really embarrassed, but I got it out in the open. He was understanding about it and after that he didn't criticize me in front of others. He still got on me when I screwed up but he did it in private. I was grateful for that and appreciated the tips on how to improve my performance.
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| Sunflower123
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Oct 15, 2017, 02:38 PM
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This is the reason (well and my BP) that I cannot work. Because of my PTSD, I have an intense fear of women. And if they’re of authority, even worse. I’ve gotten panic attacks at every job because of this. Sometimes I’d spend 30 min in the bathroom having a panic attack or I’d just be told to go home. One asshole boss said “don’t come back until you get on xanax”. Those exact words. And he meant it. I totally get how you feel but does it maybe come from a deeper issue? I had a step monster that ruined my life growing up and now I can’t trust or feel comfortable around women.
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| Shazerac, Sunflower123
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Oct 17, 2017, 04:51 PM
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I agree with Shazerac. If you can talk to her privately do so. Sending big hugs.
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