[azteker]

I was a TA in a university. It was my first time being a TA. I confronted an aggressive and arrogant student who disagreed with the marks I gave without giving a legitimate reason. He yelled at me loudly and even hit the desk. I was shocked and at a loss.

After the student venting anger on me, I reported to the professor and department chair. They had a talk with him to tell his behavior was unacceptable. I also sent him several emails to accuse of him. I ask lots of people online and they did give me good advice on how should I have dealt with such a student.

However, my grievance is still unresolved. I can still remember the evil look and hostile behavior of that student even though I may not see him again. I feel that not only do I have hatred towards him but also unsatisfied with my weakness facing this student. I should have bravely fought back and asked him to leave. How should I deal with this bad experience.

[Skeezyks]

Hello azteker: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. May I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

I don't know as there is a lot I can suggest here with regard to your particular concerns. You wrote that you feel you should have been brave & fought back. One thing I will mention is that. in a mental-health-related group I once attended. the group leaders told us: "Don't should on yourself." Here are links to some articles from the PsychCentral archives with regard to effective ways of responding to anger:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...-angry-person/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/anger...-angry-people/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/anger...ficult-people/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...selves-others/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!