[kama]

Hey everyone,
I just finished a very stressful week of work and for some reason I am still very nervous. Probably because I know that on Monday it is going to start all over again. But I need advice about what is happening today. I just turned 25 and today my boyfriend is throwing me a party. I kinda knew about it, but I didn't think he would actually pull it off. He works for the government and is constantly busy. But last night he told me all our friends were coming over today. At first I was really excited and then as it gets closer and closer I am getting really nervous. Really really nervous. I want so badly to just be able to have a good time. I want to be able to have a drink and have something to eat and laugh and have fun, but i don't think that is going to happen. What if I want all these people to leave? What if I don't feel well? I already don't feel well because I am worrying so much. I'm driving myself nuts and it sucks. I really want to have my boyfriend call everyone and tell them to leave me alone, but I know that is not the brave thing to do. But I really don't want to be brave today.

[ghost]

I'll tell you what my T told me when I was stressing over a party thrown for me before I left Lincoln a few weeks ago:

Let people come to you... chances are they'll socialize in their own little groups anyway, and they'll talk to you and say happy birthday (Happy Birthday!! btw) to you. She says that people love to talk about themselves so ask THEM something that will make them talk like "how's work going?" or "what are you up to?" "what's your sig. other up to?" etc., etc. smile and nod a lot, and try to stick close to your bf (after all, this is his fault!).

most of all, *try* to enjoy it-- for me, my 25th was my last "significant" bday-- you've reached the quarter century mark! i've never had a bday thrown for me so i'll live vicariously through you--- be sure to tell us all about it when it's over!!

[Michelle_1770]

Sense I'm not good at given good advise right now. I wanted to wish you Good Luck. May God be with you. The best advise I know, is to ask God for his help. Take care Michelle