What do you do after you give someone a homemade gift?

Happy Saturday, all!

I made some church friends scarves for Christmas-one of them is going to be going till
Easter-I gave him his last week because tomorrow is his last day there. He didn't have time to open it then so I left it for him to open later,

I don't know if he has opened it-I'm sure being gone for 3 months involves quite a bit of work-phone/utilities, etc.

I've prayed about it and God said once I give someone a gift, how they respond is out of my hands SO WHY AM I ANXIOUS-I'm sure he'll like it??????

BTW, my therapist returned yesterday and had a fantastic vacation-God knows he's earned it-worked there 4 years and this was his first one!

Happy Holidays to all,

OCDC

I think I would feel hurt if someone didn't respond the gift, even verbally. I bought a new friend a gift that took me forever to find the perfect gift and I must say it ruined the friendship because she never acknowledged it. It hurts a lot, but I guess some people were never taught manners.

I try to remember when you give someone something it becomes theirs, is a "gift" and how they feel about it is not necessarily in keeping with what we feel about it and giving it, etc.

Sometimes I give great gifts and sometimes they turn up lame and miss the mark. That's a little of why I like to give gifts, to see how "close" I can come to picking something the other person likes or not. But I like giving the gift and that's my "part" of it. I might be disappointed if they threw it in the garbage but I'd defend their right to :-)

My stepmother use to make me say "thank you" before she had even handed me whatever and so I'm sensitive to being "forced" to like or even accept a gift, etc. I can give/offer and be pretty fine with whatever happens nowadays.

Many people do need a refresher course in manners, a simple thank you goes a long way. But there is another problem, some people are embarassed to receive a gift, especially if they were not expecting it. I am more offended when I give a gift and someone feels the need to run out and get me one in return.

Ocd you made an extremely kind and thoughtful gesture, be content with the fact that you brightened someone elses day.

I give alot of homemade gifts... and I just remind myself of the love that I put into making the gift.... and that is really enough for me... how the other person reacts... well... I just leave that "be"...

and yes... some people.. really do not know how to react to any gift... the most expensive gift.. the inbetween gift.. any gift... they either were never taught..

or... really there are just some people.. that do not know how to react... the emotion it might stir up... you know..