[youOme]

My husband quit his job and hasn't made much of an effort to get a new one. All he does is lay around here all day...not lifting a finger or doing anything with his kids.

I in the mean time have taken on two part time jobs, still have full time college and come home and take care of the kids and house since my husband won't do %#@&#!. I told him I won't tolerate a worthless man not taking care of his family...he seems to not care, I think he's depressed but when it comes down to survival and feeding your kids I don't give a %#@&#! how depressed you are...get over it.

I've been very stressed...I feel like flipping out all the time, crying...just bursting. I can't handle all of this. I'm not sure what to do but all I know is we're very close to losing a lot here...our apartment, utilities....food.

Although I have major pride issues I tried to apply for food stamps and did not qualify. Working people can starve for all they care!...don't make no damn sense to me.

And to make it all worse I am scheduled for both jobs Monday morning then I have class all night...till 10 pm. So, I have to either call one and ask for a reschedule, or sacrifice one, and not see my kids one single time that day.

Sorry for ranting....but I'm on thre verge of a nervous breakdown here and nobody understands on this end.

[Perna]

Can you drop the class or some of the work in it so you get a "B" instead of an "A", etc.? I had to drop out of my classes for the last Fall semester and it was really a great relief at that time for me. I would miss Monday's class and just take some time for yourself and/or your kids (or go elsewhere to think and relax for half the class and come home "early" so you see the kids).

Skipping one class might not solve the whole problem but it can relieve some of the immediate pressure? I would seriously look at dropping out of a class or all of them this semester and spending that time working on my living situation and getting it in better shape so I won't have as much pressure when I return to school.

[nothemama8]

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[splitimage]

((((youOme))))

I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now. It sounds like a real struggle. Can you maybe drop one or two college classes so that you'd have a bit more time for other stuff. Yes it would mean longer finishing, but it might be worth it for the sake of your mental health.

Remember to take care of yourself.

--splitimage

[youOme]

I decided to drop one of the jobs instead. I've always considered my schooling much more important then my job...in a sense it is my job..the more beneficial one. Plus, it's to late to drop them either way, I had to make a sacrifice and I decided to drop the lesser scheduled job. Still, the beginning of the week will be hard but in the middle and end it will smooth out and get easier. I only have classes three days a week...hopefully my new job will try to give me those days off completely, that way I see my babies for a little while at least.

Thanks for understanding. My husband did go job hunting all day today and also put a lot of on line applications and work force resumes in...hopefully somebody'll be calling Monday for interviews.

((((((((youOme))))))))))

[I_WMD]

youOme ,, Iwas going to start this reply out on the daddy depression peep.

But ,, You must have found the words that made a dif ,,, and your decision as to not give up school >>>> Absolute ,,, Life is long ,,, and having later what you want ,,, is sacrifices for awhile >>> But not as long as your whole life ,,,> <,,,

Just Saying ,, keep up the good work and all will come to fruition . .

[youOme]

I feel bad now for being so harsh on his sadness....I was angry when I had first posted this, but I don't want his sadness to allow him to not move on with life and continue supporting his family....we all are depending on him to do it. My Ma's putting a lot of pressure on me to push him out the door, but I'm beginning to think my Mom's stupid (not really, just stupid to this situation...coming from a woman who has 16 jobs this year).

[BalishBun]

Your rant/story reminds me of my sister and her fiance/boyfriend/whatever you want to call him. He is the same way.