[selfy]

she just came home in a terrible rage. scared the livin bejesuz outta me. fun. she was yelling and ranting and whatever blaming the fact that my bro wasnt home on me. truth was, she had missed the note saying he was at jacobs and shoulda been back at 7 pm.
shes driving me nuts. i mean she never yellls like that. who does?
im actually worried my mom is going mental. she aint all right. shes so anxious and she is a total control freak. she was so angry and anxious earlier i thought she was gonna hit me. and mom has never done that. but yah. ergh yeesh

[lavendersteph]

sry to hear that my mom was being outrageous last night she was so mean and rude she gave me an upset stomach so i hear ya

[BalishBun]

I hate fighting with my parents, it is such a mood breaker.

[ziggy1]

It Makes me angry!!!.. ..Some grown ups in this world aren't meant to be parents Period!! Thats my view...The government should screen them before they bring children into this already messed up World of Ours!!!!

Back in the 1970's my dad used to leave me locked in the car while he went into the bar and drank with his buddies. I always
managed to get out and the police picked me up and brought me
down to the poice station. This Happened a number of times.

This wouldn;t happen today though, because of DSI...Like I said some parents aren't just cut out to be parents in my opinion.

I hope you can straighten this out with her soon...Good luck!

[jurplesman]

It is obvious that your mother has a mood disorder causing her to have little control over her anger. This is usually caused by an internal metabolic disorder that can be treated nutritionally.

See:

Anger Management: Nutrition and Psychotherapy

It is not unlike the treatment for depression.

Depression is a Nutritional Disorder

[pachyderm]

> a mood disorder causing her to have little control over her anger. This is usually caused by an internal metabolic disorder that can be treated nutritionally.

Well... I see you are a nutritionist.

I think that there is some disagreement among those who study such things as to the evidence that mood disorders are usually caused by something that can be successfully treated nutritionally...

[mandazzle]

That's like my mom. If she's in a bad mood, she will *****fest and blame everything on me. She takes out EVERYTHING on me. And she hasn't figured out yet that that's the fact why I don't like her anymore.

[spiritual_emergency]

<blockquote>
Thanks for your post Selfy. It reminds me that sometimes I can get anxious and frustrated around my own family members and often, it has nothing to do with them. It's simply that I'm feeling stressed and overburdened in that moment.

Do you think you could talk to your mother about how distressing you find it to be when she gets angry? Sometimes, rather than talk to a parent face-to-face, it's easier to write them a note.

[sabby]

I think that's a great idea....talk and/or write out a note to mom with your thoughts and feelings.

I don't think it's at all fair to assume that just because someone has been angry and is letting it out, that they have a mood or personality disorder. Is it possible that adult stressors turn into frustrations and the place they feel most comfortable letting it out is at home? Of course it is. Does it make it right that they put it on their kids? No...it doesn't....but it also doesn't mean that they are doing it intentionally or that they are ill either. And sometimes, in the heat of it all, they don't realize how hurtful they are being.

Finding some quiet time when everyone is in a good mood, one can start up a conversation and say "Wow, mom, it was pretty obvious that you were stressed out yesterday. Is there anything I can do to help you with your stress? Can I tell you how it makes me feel when you lash out like you did yesterday? I love you mom and it hurts me to see you having such difficulties."

Now, I'm not saying that kids need to be their parents therapists. What I am saying is that sometimes, kids can be the catalyst to more open and honest communication. Regardless what age we are...reaching out to someone we care about is what love is all about no?

(((((((((((((( selfy )))))))))))))))) I know it's hard to be the brunt of such anger and stress. I'm sorry you had to experience it. I can tell that you are worried about your mum. I hope she feels better soon and the two of you can do some heart to heart talking.


sabby

[Labyssum]

Sorry to hear that. My dad would go into rages and sometimes hit me, so I can relate.

[katheryn]

mabye something is causing you mum to be stressed bills work something she isnt happy to discuss just yet
it might be something simple it doesnt mean shes ill try asking her why she so stressed but say you are worried coz its not like her

if this isnt normaly what you mum is like, it doesnt make her a bad parent it just means shes made a mistake

(((((((((((((((selfy)))))))))))))))))))

[Kiya]

selfy, especially you said this isn't like her..... so maybe things are just too much right now. i have noticed there are a lot more angry people in the world currently and it is shocking. maybe we all need to start helping out where we can and be extra nice to people so they will go the xtra mile to be nice to others... a chain reaction backwards from the anger that has started to take over.
just my 2 cents