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Old Feb 25, 2014, 08:48 PM
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So since September I've become homeless, my husband lost his job, my panic & psychosis have been totally exacerbated, but, I've managed to keepmyjob as a server at the same restaurant for 11 years. They were always flexible to my situation, which is how I've stayed employed despite my psychiatric limitations. Well slowly & legally they have been making life miserable for me. I want to quit. I almost bit my tongue in half today after a schedule change had me unknowingly added me to this morning's shift. Already 15 minutes late a friend & co-worker happened to call me & tell me so I show up 35 minutes late. I've been verbally abused, publicly humiliated, tormented, and even directly threatened. Now, I don't know about y'all, but, I have the issue of violent episodes & blackouts. How long until things get ugly? What should I do? The stigma of mental illness is alive and well & everyone is okay with it. Never good enough.
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Old Feb 25, 2014, 11:14 PM
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Not quite right,

I don't know that I have any stellar advice about the legalities of keeping your job, but the fact that you've been getting up and going in despite all that has been going on in your life these past several months is an amazing accomplishment

Also, the co-worker that called you truly seems to have your back. Is he/she someone that might be able to give you some advice about maneuvering in the restaurant? Sounds like some things have changed, and someone on the inside could help provide some extra support, perhaps.

You are good enough--even when you don't feel like it.
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Old Feb 28, 2014, 08:55 PM
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I'm trying to get disability, but for right now I really need the money. I have worked with the general manager of the store since I started & she was a hostess. She has watched my mental status deteriorate slowly over the 11 years that I've worked there & I find it inexcusable that I'm being treated so poorly by all of the mgmt. I seriously believe they're doing it for pure amusement. They've had countless valid reasons to fire me but never do. I know the politics of the place quite well but this is something I've never seen before. It's discrimination & they will get away with it. Somehow one day I will make them very sorry for all they have done to me. I won't be anyone's joke.
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Old Feb 28, 2014, 11:50 PM
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I don't know if this will help but this link from the NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) shows how mental illness can be covered under the The American with Disabilities Act.

NAMI | The ADA – Americans with Disabilities Act

Does the restaurant employ more than 15 people? That seems to beg key to them having to comply with the ADA.

Not to load you down with more on your plate, but something to consider.

I hope that you are not anyone's joke. You are not one here.

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Old Mar 01, 2014, 09:27 AM
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Unfortunately they are a huge corporation with a full legal department that would tear me to shreds. My mental instability has always been a running joke around there, but now I'm not in on it. I was also told if I sought commitment for psychiatric issues I would be deemed unstable & not employable. Though no one will admit it now. They said there has never been any documentation of my illness so they will plead ignorance & I'm still a walking punchline. Oh well, some battles are not meant to be won.
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