[teejai]

She was supposed to come to see me at 2.00. I got more and more anxious and uptight when it got to 2.15,2.30,2.45 and she hadn't turned up.
Then just before three she phones to tell she went to the wrong flat and waited there for 20 mins trying to get someone to answer the door.
She had got the number of my flat the wrong way round.
Hopefully she will see met tomorrow presuming nothing untoward happens again.

I have been nervously anticipating her visit and now i just feel completely drained . All i want to do is crash out bed being where i am heading after making this post in the hope i'll get a few hours sleep till that drained/washed out feeling goes.

[Perna]

Oh, that's too bad you didn't get to meet her and get it over with for all that nervous anticipation! But you got a little practice and have an idea how it will feel, etc. and she made a mistake (instead of you :-) so that's comforting. It's nice to know what lengths she'll go to (the 20 minute wait outside an empty flat trying to get someone to answer the door :-) to help too. You'll be a piece of cake to her to befriend compared to the empty flat

[gimmeice]

(((((((((((((teejai))))))))))))))))
Hopefully all goes well tomorrow, then you can look back on today as a funny memory.

[katheryn]

hubby has a befriender hes great he will phone everynow and then and they arange to go out and have a coffee

hope all goes well tomorrow when she finds where you live,and to future meetings hope you get along and enjoy some good times to come

[RozG]

((teejai)) i hope it goes well tomorrow, let us know?

good luck!

[teejai]

Have just seen one of the staff from the befriending service.She asked me questions about interests(which i'd already had to put on the referral form)things i would like to do and whether i had any stipulations re the age of the volunteer who would see me.
She also explained how it works in terms of the volunteer and i contacting each other ie the volunteer can contact me directly while i contact the volunteer via the befriending service.
She is also going to send me out a list of their guidelines etc.
Contact is usually about once a week for an hour but it can vary . They have to match me up with what they think is a suitable volunteer which can take several months and she said it is important that there is chemistry/rapport between myself and the befriender.
I have to say that she made it all sound a lot more formal than i was expecting which i found a bit off putting but i guess for logistics sake there has to be an element of formality.

[RozG]

((((teejai))))

the befriending service we have here works the same but at least you're on the list...and sometimes you can strike lucky and be matched up within a week or two.

fingers crossed for you.

[Perna]

Hope you get someone soon. I'm sure once you get to one-on-one and enjoying time together a bit it will feel a little less formal.

[teejai]

You're probably right.

[sabby]

I guess you could look at it this way - If they weren't so formal with all the questions and maybe some rules etc, you may end up with a befriender that wasn't suited to your taste (and theirs for that matter). I would rather know they did a good matching job and that the whole thing had a better chance of working from the getgo than having to go through a number of different people before the right connection is made.

I certainly can imagine the anxiety the whole thing holds though...I think, once the initial "awkward feeling" time is over, you will have a great connection with someone who truly is a caring individual. It sounds all good to me! Wishing you well ((((((((teejai))))))))))


sabby

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((( teejai ))))))))))))

[crazybones]

ok yeah you really dont have anything to worry about i understand what are going through and yeah as time goes by the more nervouse people get and as for whole formal thing of this program yeah most programs are like that but dont worry cuz the people they hook you up with usually are laid back it just the company liked to make it sound like important like ok we have a program called big brothers big sisters well any way when i first got signed up they should all rules and such but after that it all relaxed i got paired witj a really nice person we did alot together he has worked with me and my family for years now but yeah it is really not tht bad most programs are like this