terrified of exboyfriend

Hi,
I got out of a really bad relationship about a year and a half ago. I was totally obsessive and co-dependent and he was emotionally abusive and co-dependent. Towards the end I quit school and moved across the country to be with him and a month after that he decided he wasn't ready for the commitment and kicked me out of the apartment. After that he would call me tell me he missed me and suggest we got back together every few weeks (and ofcorse i just wanted him to love me again). Eventually i wised up, i moved away and changed my number .
About a month ago he emailed me telling me he was moving to my city. This guy was a trigger to my depression, obsessive thoughts, anger- basically my worse traits, he brought out. I have done so well since getting away- I'm rational, and mindful, and rarely panic. I'm also in a healthy relationship (something i didn't think i was capable of). But ever since this email i'm always anxious. I'm terrified to leave my house because i might run into him. I feel like if i see him i'll just lose everything i've worked for. That all my anger for what he put me through and what i let myself believe will come back. I'm even considering moving again to get away. I never wanted to see him again and i'm terrified. And sadly emotional abuse and abandonment doesn't qualify for a restraining order. What should i do?

Hello tickytack, welcome to psychcentral.
Is this guy moving to your city with intentions of getting back together with you? Have you explained that you are in a relationship and are not interested in seeing him?
If you feel threatened physically by him call the police immediately, if not the best approach is to just tell him to stay away. If your relationship is a healthy one then just seeing him will not ruin that, I worried about when getting together with hubby and seeing exboyfriends.