anxiety from decissions

I have always made big decisions in my life because I based them on a person. Mostly boys. Recently one of the reasons I have moved is because of a boy. I am getting the chance to move to where I am happier again. However, i dont want to later regret it knowing I made the choice because of a person and not because I wanted it.....
this has brought me to plenty of anxiety hours a day. it is horrible.
i try my breathing exercises and they have not worked. This is horrible.

What do I do to make sure I am making the right decision?
Please help me!
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First of all I recommend some good self care methods so try doing some things that relax you, it can be as simple as soaking in a hot bath or taking some time to read, anything that helps you relax. We make better decisions when we are relaxed. Another thing I recommend is to make a pros and cons list for each option, it may help you to have all the info in front of you will you think about it.

I have faith in God. Why do I say that? Read your own signature. Before I make any decisions, God gets the question(s). I let His will be done. God's answers aren't always what you want to hear, or what you want, but don't forget His wisdom, His way of thinking, is too much for us to even think about. If this turns out to not be what you thought it would, there is still a reason you have done what you did, and God knows what is best!

Secondly, after you pray about your decsion making, I would think about you. What do you want? Search yourself, and make sure it's something you're doing for you.

Third...risk. There is risk in almost every decsion we make (major life changing ones). If I didn't take that leap of faith, and risk my all, and have God to help me, I may have given up on my marriage, I wouldn't be with my wife right now (that's another story). But I prayed about it a lot, it's what I truly wanted (staying with her) and took the risk. I stayed and fought for our marriage, prayed everything would be ok between her and I...and it is. Thanks be to God!

I ramble a lot, but basically it's hard for everyone to make major life changing decsions. Anxiety is a normal part of those changes. I find exercise has helped me a lot in calming down. Deep breathing exercises don't always work for me either, so I do other things to occupy my mind. Sit back on the couch and watch a good movie, gimmeice mentioned a nice calming bath, and that pros and cons list is a really good idea, then you have an idea of what's up.

GL!

I don't believe there are any right/wrong personal decisions. And moving because of another is perfectly legitimate. You aren't going to go to all that trouble of starting over, etc. if you don't "want" to. Think about what you don't want to do and how you manage to not do that? Worrying about the move might help keep you from worrying about the relationship? I do that; when my husband is out of town on business trips I suddenly worry about burglars instead of missing him. . .