Frustrated parent

My ADHD son is 8 years old. Trying to help him with his homework has become a nightmarish experience. He is belligerent, moody, argumentative and tearful from the start. And it is easy, revision type work. I find myself becoming overly frustrated with him when he cannot read a single sentence without scratching, coughing, looking up, looking down, talking about something quite unrelated - I could go on. When I patiently and calmly tell him to go back to reading his becomes tearful and cheeky. Reading one page can take up to 2 hours.

I ensure he eats a high protein snack before his homework and I always allow him a short break if it is evident we are going nowhere.

I guess I am just frustrated as today when trying to do the 2x multiplication table which he knew off by heart last year - he starts crying and says he can't do it and simply gives up.

He has been tested as having a superior IQ.

I am tired and exhausted. I can't even imagine how my poor son must be feeling.

He does not take medication specifically for homework as he is medicated for school.

I have books and books on handling an ADHD child but I still feel as though I am slamming my head into a concrete wall.

I feel for you. I have a 14-y/o daughter who's almost the same way. She spends more time avoiding doing the work, making excuses, arranging pencils, finding lost items, crying about being stupid, than it would take to just get it done.

Stimulant medication is out of the question for her. The neuropsych suggested a tricyclic antidepressant, but I haven't had the nerve to consider starting her on it. I talked with her dad about it and he's more comfortable putting her on something like that than the newer stimulants that have such awful side effects.

I don't know. Something has to change or she'll never get through high school.

I feel your frustration, I really do.

Thanks so much!!!! I end up weeping after many homework sessions let alone other day to day happenings.

As you said .......... after all the moaning, arranging, shifting about - whatever ............ the work could have been done already.

I feel for my poor child for I know it is not his fault. And then I berate myself for my impatience and anger. I understand his ADHD but I am not handling it very well!

Sigh - tomorrow is another day!

I' m 20 and have ADHD. My mother could relate to you because I had a hard time doing my homework and chores, as well ( I still do.) My mother finally gave up helping me with my howework and got me tutor; it was very beneficial becasue she didn't stress, and more importantly she didn't stress me out even more. I had many tutors, but the one that helped me the most was a neighbor. She was a college student so it didn't cost that much. She was helpful beacuse would make silly rhymes and teach me new and exciting ways to memorize things like multiplication. She was also very patient.
I understand exactly how your son feels. With help, patience, and encouragement he will eventually find learning exciting. Educational videos, interactive game and kits will help him as well. Making homework more interesting will help ease the stress for him. Good Luck!!

It is nice to have understanding from the "other" side. Thanks Marcy. You have obviously grown up to become a responsible, understanding and kind young woman. Your mother is lucky to have you!

I'm cheering for you and your son!!!

((((((((((you two)))))))))