[littlemissjess]

okay, if anyone read my old post a while ago. i went to a counsellor and they had said i have ADD and i have to go see another doctor to be put on meds and it should be a huge improvement so i'm really excited about that. [ thanks SO much everyone that has helped me with my ADD over the time!]

but i've always been forgetting things like crazy, but is that part of having ADD? my boyfriend and i fight off and on about things he says or asks me to do but i forget all the time and i feel so bad because i really do try to remember but i'm always blank. i don't smoke/drink/ or do drugs so that couldn't lead into anything. is it just me having stupidity or is that somewhat part of having ADD?

help, i'm scared

[Bloo]

From what I've been reading ("Driven to Distraction" Hallowell and Ratey), forgetfulness is a big part of ADD. For example, I know I need to go to the kitchen and get something. I'll walk in and completely, utterly forget what I went in for. I'll lose my car key under a magazine. I misplaced my military ID card for 6 months (found it right where I'd left it, in a brief case). I think I paid a bill only to get a delinquent notice. Drives my husband nuts.

Like you, I'm not an abuser of drugs or alcohol. I only take Prozac and Wellbutrin and have an occasional drink (once every 3-6 months).

Nope, you're so not stupid!!! I feel your frustration though, big time.

One thing we're going to do as a couple is, I'm going to gather all the bill information (payee, balance, amount paid each month) and compile a spreadsheet for my husband. 90% of our bills are autopaid so that's easy. HOwever, there are a few that I pay manually. I'm turning it all over to him after 15 years. It's one less thing I have to worry about.

And my car keys? Luckily I can park in the garage most of the time. I leave my keys on the dash. Otherwise I'm completely lost. Eep!

[littlemissjess]

Alright. I mean he tells me to meet him somewhere or go to his house at a sertain time and I'll totally forget. Not forget the plans overall, but sometimes the time, I'll show up 20 minutes late and think I'm on time until he tells me he told me a specific time. It just drives me insane. I'm not on any meds yet, but hopefully that will help me more with my schooling which I've been on the border-edge of failing for about 5 years now, and this year I've actually failed and have to re-take a course. But hopefully my meds would help me alot. Thanks for your help!

[IAmLost]

Sounds a lot like my predicament. I've lost a girlfriend of 4 years over it, she couldn't take it anymore (she was a super-organized type A personality). She was studying to be a teacher and was the one to point out that I might have a problem when she saw the warning signs in me. I've had utilities shut off, and failed college courses, even ones in my major that I was interested in. I even went canoeing once just to forget the life preservers. We went back to get them but then at the lake I realized that I had forgotten the paddles. Doh! I had even made a list of things to bring but somehow forgot to write paddles on the list. I only have two classes to pass and I'll graduate but I am dangerously close to not meeting the GPA requirement for my major. At least you are finding out about it while you are young, not that I'm old of course. I've only known about it for about 6 months now and I'm 27. I have to write everything (everything!) down or I'll forget. I put events in my phone so that it beeps at me when I have an appointment, otherwise I'll forget to go to class. Get some kind of system in place and stick to it! I am on medication but my doctor is still working on the exact formulation and dosage. Sorry, I don't mean to scare you but I'm just relating my experiences. Hang in there, you aren't alone!

[littlemissjess]

Thank you! I saw my family doctor since I couldn't get into another doctor for meds till July! But my family doctor wouldn't give me a prescription for anything, but I was told to get sticky notes and do that with everything. I didn't start yet though

[muse]

Maybe you could explain your situation to your BF, and have HIM put in a little more effort to help you, like calling you 10 or 15 minutes before you're supposed to meet him to remind you, or just being more understanding in general. You can't put all the weight on him, but it doesn't sound like he's doing anything to make this less difficult for you.

[littlemissjess]

Oh well. I just don't care anymore. I gave up on trying with anyone. Only you people here on PC seem to care.