[lavendersage]

I have some boxes of unopened mail/paperwork to file. Every time my eyes fall on those boxes, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach. I kind of gulp and go do something else.

The feelings that I'm feeling when that happens are anxiety, frustration and sadness...but WHY do I feel that way? It's just unfiled paperwork. I haven't left a baby out in the rain.

I hope somebody reads this and understands what I'm wondering and can tell me if they get those sorts of feelings when they look at undone stuff...where are those feelings coming from? Are we unconsciously telling ourselves things that make us feel bad about ourselves (i.e. "A proper adult would take of their crap.", etc.)

I guess what I'm asking others: Why does it bother us so much?

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by lavendersage

I have some boxes of unopened mail/paperwork to file. Every time my eyes fall on those boxes, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach. I kind of gulp and go do something else.

The feelings that I'm feeling when that happens are anxiety, frustration and sadness...but WHY do I feel that way? It's just unfiled paperwork. I haven't left a baby out in the rain.

I hope somebody reads this and understands what I'm wondering and can tell me if they get those sorts of feelings when they look at undone stuff...where are those feelings coming from? Are we unconsciously telling ourselves things that make us feel bad about ourselves (i.e. "A proper adult would take of their crap.", etc.)

I guess what I'm asking others: Why does it bother us so much?

Though I am not diagnosed with AD/HD, I know I have it and I do this all the time. I have like 10 unfinished projects and when I think or look at the projects I get frustrated, but do something else. I would think that someone else would try to finish it, but for me, I can't. I start too many projects and tend to never finish them. It sucks. I wish I had the mental effort to finish my projects. You aren't alone .

I think it bothers us because we know that "they" don't have this barrier in the way. I don't think it's a problem, just something that needs to be worked on. But it probably bothers us because we know we need to finish it, but we don't and that bothers us. Hope this helps .

[xiare]

Because we've made the task seem daunting, even though it's really just easily digestible bits we could totally do. Knock out 3 letters, today, and that will be enough.

[kanasi]

Same problem here. It occurred to me recently that anxiety was probably a "coping mechanism" of sorts for me when I was younger, because it shone a light on deadlines I might have ignored otherwise, and probably gave me an adrenaline rush as those deadlines loomed closer. It largely worked when I was a teen and there was already a lot of structure in my life, but ended up losing its effectiveness over the long term. Now only unproductive forms of anxiety seem to remain.

[Diva4]

Agree on this! I wake up every day dreading what I have to do... so I don't do them. I really need help focusing!

[artismyonelove]

urgh, i cringed reading your post. I felt a wave of anxiety rushing over. because I too feel the same way whenever I have piles. for me it reminds me of the anxiety that bares upon my consciousness. even though I know I have to do it, it reminds me of my other life goal failures. especially when it is something significant like court, paying my car payment or paying my loans for my unfinished degree. and then it brings me to the surface of the very same reason why I do not want to do these things.

[lavendersage]

Originally Posted by artismyonelove

urgh, i cringed reading your post. I felt a wave of anxiety rushing over. because I too feel the same way whenever I have piles. for me it reminds me of the anxiety that bares upon my consciousness. even though I know I have to do it, it reminds me of my other life goal failures. especially when it is something significant like court, paying my car payment or paying my loans for my unfinished degree. and then it brings me to the surface of the very same reason why I do not want to do these things.

I totally, totally understand where you are coming from. "other life goal failures". ugh. blech. grrr.