[Illyrio]

Hi all,

I am a 45 year-old new father who has been diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive type) about a year ago.

I have been taking 64mg Concerta in the am and a 15 mg Ritalin when it wears off in the evening.

The meds have been tremendously helpful in the following ways

- More energy
- Higher self-confidence
- When working on the right task and interested, more likely to relentlessly pursue it until completion

However I have found the following to be challenges that I am facing that remain unresolved:

-Marriage suffered. Wife who has anxiety feels I have changed in a negative way, probably due to higher self confidence.
-Often hyperfocus on irrelevant tasks
-When perceived to be under attack, anger and aggression increased. Not uncontrollable or violent but more likely to refuse to back down, especially when I know that I am right about something.
-Still losing and forgetting things and disorganized.

Was wondering if anyone had any feedback or suggestions that could help with this type of stuff. I have thought of trying different meds or possibly seeing someone who specializes in the field. Am skeptical as to whether a coach or CBT would be for me. Thanks in advance for any insight and help you might be able to provide!

[Mitmit]

You might have a vitamin dificiency

[Skeezyks]

Hello Illyrio: Unfortunately I cannot comment with regard to your concerns. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[conchuot]

Hi Illyrio, and welcome aboard. You will find lots here pursue it! I am relatively new as well. I had posted something along the lines of your relationship issues earlier, but I cannot address the medication issues as I come from the Non ADD side of the relationship. I will say this, again no expert, the medications can sometimes cause ill effects with emotional controls. If you value your relationship I would look into it seriously. Research ADHD and DESR or have your medical care team look at it for you.
I have experienced the seemingly "higher self confidence" from the other side, combined with the anger/emotional upset....it cost us a beautiful relationship.

This link is from Psych Central

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...rried-to-adhd/

Best to you

[jjlltt40]

The Medication is meant too help main symptoms, like depression, finishing task, increase self esteem. I have found alot of people don't do good on concerta, or Ritalin.I took both at one point so . Studies show Vyvanse is more effective in adults with ADHD and I was on it and really helped me alot, but after a year and half it stopped lasting long enough it use to last 12-14 hours one dose in A.m. my doctor switched me too Adderall 20 mg 3 times a day this way I have more say in how long it last cause I can take right before I got to do some work or say going out with woman , basically I take when I think I should be at best too learn and retain information. Anyway I'm 40 but I was diagnosed at 6. Seriously check Vyvanse.com it's got all info including the test they did too get it approved it's impressive .

[Masshole]

Vyvanse may work for you, and that's terrific, but in general it is certainly not as effective as Adderall or Ritalin for most adults. I am always skeptical when I see people start with "Studies show..." Best to stick to your own experience.

Originally Posted by jjlltt40

The Medication is meant too help main symptoms, like depression, finishing task, increase self esteem. I have found alot of people don't do good on concerta, or Ritalin.I took both at one point so . Studies show Vyvanse is more effective in adults with ADHD and I was on it and really helped me alot, but after a year and half it stopped lasting long enough it use to last 12-14 hours one dose in A.m. my doctor switched me too Adderall 20 mg 3 times a day this way I have more say in how long it last cause I can take right before I got to do some work or say going out with woman , basically I take when I think I should be at best too learn and retain information. Anyway I'm 40 but I was diagnosed at 6. Seriously check Vyvanse.com it's got all info including the test they did too get it approved it's impressive .