[OpinionatedMama]

Okay so I have been diagnosed with ADD. Now what?? My therapist is just telling me to accept myself the way I am. I don't WANT to. I want to be BETTER. Not perfect, just better. It's not fair to my husband to have to deal with me the way I am with the way I get overwhelmed by things, so frustrated, my short fuse, my clutter.... Or my kids...!!

Thank you for any feedback.

[flowers601]

Mama,

I feel the same way! you are not alone at all! I just found out a little over 2 weeks ago and now my life is even more upside down! I really feel like I have failed everything in my life right now!

I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH!!!!!! TRUST ME!!!!

Depression has set in and I really feel like crap! I want to be better but not sure how yet! I haven't started on any meds yet.. Have you? There is some out there!

Maybe we can help eachother with this?? Please look at my other post all of them have just been w/in the last week or so!

I have started reading "You mean I'm not Lazy Stupid or Crazy?" The book so far has helped me understand ADD.

Keep in touch and keep your head high! I know it is hard! I am 31, 2 kids and a husband who doesn't understand how to help me with this issue. He is trying but it is hard!

I am here for you babe!

Kathy

[OpinionatedMama]

Thank you Kathy...

ADD has been running my life as long as I can remember. It has already RUINED so many potentially WONDERFUL things for me. This damn disease!!!!! I have always felt like I don't have control over some of the things I do (ex - the way I get when things don't go exactly as I have planned in my head... my short fuse..)

My parents were of no help... I was just a "brat"... They are very anti-psych, and refused to ever try to find out what was wrong with me. I have physical problems too that were never addressed growing up because my parents wouldn't take me to the doctor for them either. I feel so much RESENTMENT that it took so long to get diagnosed.

I still could have gone to the doctor before now, and that's my fault... I waited until now, I'm 24, until I felt like I was at the end of my rope...

I want to be a good mom (I have 3 kids - 2.5, 18 months, 8 months). I want to be a good wife.

I don't want to learn to deal with it, I want it to GO AWAY. But I know THAT'S not going to happen.

No I'm not on any meds yet. My therapist hasn't even mentioned it, but when I go Wednesday I am going to.

[scottad]

Hi,
I am 26 and in the Marine Corps. I have been diagnosed with add since I was in the 2nd grade. I was treated with Ritalin and it helped me out a lot until I hit my mid to late teen years, I became depressed and very self destructive, i.e. heavy drinking, total self-disregard for any safety. I am now off my medication and its like when I was 7 again, except I cant be medicated for ADD while in the military so I get held back from well deserved promotions and other good oporitunities. I have always had a very bad temper and have learned to keep it in check, I have learned to dicipline myself to think straight but only for short bursts and I get mentally fatigued very easily. For some reason I love mentally challenging myself, its like I am mentally masochistic or something. Sometimes I cant sleep because my mind is running so fast I don't know how to deal with it except do something, things that I like and that often leads me away from responsibility. The best way to deal with it I have found is to laugh, alot and don't be so self critical or you will drive yourself to defeat, I have been off my meds for 7 years and I have made 4 of them in the Marines and fought 2 wars with them, its not impossible, it just takes acceptance and time, you all will get the hang of it. Just believe in yourself. Good luck. I will check in on this post in the next few days to see how you all are. Later

[emwell]

I try to make myself accountable to my husband. I ask for his help to keep me on track. I also do this with my Mom and some friends and co workers. It definitely helps with focusing and not getting off track.

I am on medication, but that is only part of it. Learning about ADD is great. An effort to change behaviors is a must. Learning to ask for help can be tough. Let your family read about ADD as well. There are awesome sites out there for spouses of people with ADD.

[Angel10]

Hi again emwell, morning ozzie, and welcome OpinionatedMama and scottad. I still haven’t received help, for some reason I just want it to go away, but I know it will never go away. I hate being like this I can’t think right, but my boss and my husband help me as well as they can. I cry for no reason, I have a sharp temper, and my mind won’t focus on anything that I need to accomplish. I have helped myself learn to keep my temper in check, and I write everything down ( I should invest in posits)