I need some help, nobody seems to take me seriously.

I feel that if I don't speak to the right person then I feel that I may get shoddy advice in return, I feel that people would just say the same old rubbish, i.e. "There's nothing to worry about, you'll be fine." "I wouldn't worry if I were you" I've had this before and I will no longer accept advice like this. There was an occasion where somebody claimed that I was "highly intelligent" I disagree, that person does not know me; to be honest I wouldn't consider myself to be an educated person.

I don't feel that I should speak to certain people because they might not take me seriously and just give an impression that what I am feeling is what everybody else would think and that there's "nothing wrong" which implies that I shouldn't change at all. It's like they think they know me. I really want to speak to someone, but I feel that there's nobody for me to turn to; I've felt like this for a long time but I've felt paralysed, unable to make any changes for the better.

When it comes to mathematical competence, my situation hasn't changed in the slightest; I've barely looked through the KS3 maths textbook that my tutor gave to me at the end of last year. I always think of what jobs I can do in the future but I fail to realise that I need to have a solid foundation of mathematical competence.

I am literally uneducated when it comes to maths, I doubt that I can even do sums and questions that you would have been taught in primary school. I feel like I've wasted my tutors' time or not looking in a textbook he lent me, it's my fault. Sometimes I feel as though I'll be stuck in this situation for even longer than I can imagine; I might not even have the GCSE if I leave in 2 years time.

I don't know if I can pass it, sometimes I feel pressured by some people who have got A*-C because they have the grades and they don't need to worry. I didn't get very good GCSEs myself or any other decent qualifications myself apart from the BTEC L2 from last year. Whenever I'm around people who have reveal they have good grades at their GCSEs or A-levels I feel a lot smaller and unworthy. I am indeed uneducated, I'm sorry but it's true.

I'm literally going through an endless cycle in life. Nothing's changed, I think that I may be stuck in a rut; maybe I'm afraid deep down? I've sometimes wondered if I'm even ready to make a start; maybe it is necessary that I should rethink my situation and possibly analyse my thoughts, feelings and beliefs that could be holding me back.

I'm literally wasting my time and my life, would an evening class be of any use to me such as Skills for Life and Adult Numeracy? I know I will be doing Functional Skills but there is a pressure for me to get both L1 and L2 in the same year because if I don't then there will be chance that when I leave I may have to pay for the GCSE course.

I don't like to admit it, but I haven't done anything about my situation when it comes to maths. I would really like to change, I am fed up procrastinating and failing to address the situation; otherwise I will be stuck at a dead end and possibly unemployed because of my maths skills.

Finally, I will also admit that I feel that I cannot do all of this on my own; I don't think that I would be able to make any progress if I was left alone to do anything. Why? Because I will fall into relapse, this has happened to me before and I no longer want to take any risks.
It would be good if somebody was there to monitor my progress and help me get motivated in order to make a start.

For me, it's a case of finding someone who will open up to me, care, be honest and not take me for granted. However, I don't know who that might be as there are not many people are like this. I don't know anyone who is listed under the criteria, but I need someone like this who can assist me to make a change in life. I am in my comfort zone as I write this, and I can't feel any emotion; but that's not say that I never feel emotional. I will therefore admit that in some situations I have felt slightly emotional.

I suspect that I try to seek attention the wrong way and I doubt my own self worth and intelligence. I sometimes feel that I demand perfection from my life and think of what the quality of my life could have been if I didn't make the mistakes I did in the past. I try to look confident and act superior to others but deep down inside I am nervous and insecure about myself. Is it true that, if one stays in their comfort zone, there are no feelings of anger and hostility to others?

My experience with trying to stay in my comfort zone, suggests that comfort zones tend to shrink and end up anything but comfortable.

Paradoxically, what seems to expand my comfort zone the most, is going outside it.

Hello Dark_Soldier.750,

Firstly, I want to say to you that you have the right to have some good advices here and not the same as you mentionned in your text.

Quote:''I don't feel that I should speak to certain people because they might not take me seriously and just give an impression that what I am feeling is what everybody else would think and that there's "nothing wrong" which implies that I shouldn't change at all.''

Is it real or is it just an impression that you have? Have you some good friends to talk about that? Maybe that would help you.

Quote:''I really want to speak to someone, but I feel that there's nobody for me to turn to; I've felt like this for a long time but I've felt paralysed, unable to make any changes for the better.''

Have you a T or a pdoc whom you can talk to about that?

Quote: ''I feel like I've wasted my tutors' time or not looking in a textbook he lent me, it's my fault. Sometimes I feel as though I'll be stuck in this situation for even longer than I can imagine; I might not even have the GCSE if I leave in 2 years time.''
I don't think you have wasted your tutors time. They are here to help you.

Quote:''I don't know if I can pass it, sometimes I feel pressured by some people who have got A*-C because they have the grades and they don't need to worry. I didn't get very good GCSEs myself or any other decent qualifications myself apart from the BTEC L2 from last year. Whenever I'm around people who have reveal they have good grades at their GCSEs or A-levels I feel a lot smaller and unworthy. I am indeed uneducated, I'm sorry but it's true.''

You said you feel smaller and unworthy because you can not have good grades like the best students can do? I think that all you have to do is to pass the exam, not necessarly having a A.

Quote:''I don't like to admit it, but I haven't done anything about my situation when it comes to maths. I would really like to change, I am fed up procrastinating and failing to address the situation; otherwise I will be stuck at a dead end and possibly unemployed because of my maths skills.''

Wanting to change is a good first way of a changing process!

Quote: ''Finally, I will also admit that I feel that I cannot do all of this on my own; I don't think that I would be able to make any progress if I was left alone to do anything. Why? Because I will fall into relapse, this has happened to me before and I no longer want to take any risks.
It would be good if somebody was there to monitor my progress and help me get motivated in order to make a start.''

I think a T would be appropriate for you.

Quote: ''Is it true that, if one stays in their comfort zone, there are no feelings of anger and hostility to others?''

I think this is true.

I wish you the best!

What's a "T" or a "pdoc" by the way? I'm a but confused there. Thanks for the help.

I'll explain what happened two years ago, I dropped out of two courses within 6 weeks. These were the BTEC National in Sport (Outdoor Activities) and BTEC National Horticulture. I wanted to try out the Sport course because there was a unit in there I wanted to do. I then quit that course because I felt that it wasn't right for me; I then moved onto Horticulture because I had done the Level 2 Diploma in the previous year and thought it would be more convenient.

After 2 weeks of Horticulture, I dropped out because I was struggling with anxiety and I wouldn't tell anyone about that because if I did then they would have tried to persuade me to stay on the course. I wanted to leave Horticulture anway and decided to move colleges to make a new start in the following year.

After a month, I found this utterly pointless course which was called "Active 8" this was basically the worst thing I have ever done in my life. I had to study modules such as "Producing a Product", "Living in the community", "Healthy Living" and "Understanding drugs and alcohol". I mean, what waste of taxpayers money; these are the sort of courses that lead students to nowhere. I wish I would have dropped out of it because it was the complete OPPOSITE to what I was expecting.

Because of all the mistakes I've made since leaving school in 2009, the only recognised qualifications I've actually obtained where GCSE English Language at grade C and the BTEC Level 2 Diploma in IT at Distinction.

These aren't good enough, and how I'm 20 years old I have to pay for any other courses I have to do. I can't get a job, because I am unqualified. Even though I'm on a Software Development course I am absoloutely TERRIBLE at maths. My score averages that of a primary school child, I blame the UK education system and my former maths teacher. She was absolutely useless and the worst thing is, she's there getting over £40,000 per year failing all of her students. There was one guy who got a U (that means unclassified, therefore you failed) and my old maths teacher said: "That's brilliant, you only got 4 marks off a G." Unbelieveable. I don't understand the concepts and I am one of the most uneducated people on this planet. I'm serious.

I have only 1 GCSE and if I told people this in real life they would look down on me because they've got 5 A*-C GCSEs and have left sixth form with AS levels. They're the ones who are employable, not me.

It's not fair.

I understand how you feel, nobody treats you seriously even though you are an adolescent already... In their eyes you are still considered a child -_-. I told my psychologist the disorders that i may be having but instead of giving me some comfort, he said that i have hypochondraisis (a disorder that you think you have all the illnesses in the world. ) my mum said this too. Hope i come up with enough research about why I think i have them to my doctor so that he can diagnose me properly so that others won't think that i am paranoid or whatsoever.