Not Sure I fit in .

Hello everyone . Just not sure I fit in anywhere . It's really hard to explain . I basically saw a psychologist last year , had some tests done , got asked lots of questions which I answered . To be told , on the results of the questions it point to Aspergers Syndrome .

I just feel , I don't really fit in the normal society and the people who suffer with Aspergers .

I read up and most people are really good at least one subject, whether it be numbers, maths, computers etc etc .
I feel that all the subjects I do are on the same sort of level , not an expert in one thing. Hope that makes any sense.

Does any of you feel like this , well hope you can understand what I am trying to say. Sorry I am not very good at trying to explain things . I sort of know in my head what I want to say , but explaining it is another thing .



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Hello. My understanding is that not all people with this syndrome have the one big skill that stands out. Remember, too, that this syndrome is like a spectrum, running from really milder autism, which has been called asperger's, to severe autism. You might not relate to some people because they are in a different place on the spectrum.

I am the same, I did academically well, but I'm no genius and I have no specialty. I don't have a lot of the symptoms of Aspergers, but I do have what the psych referred to as the "core symptoms", or enough symptoms to be diagnosed.

Thanks everyone for replying . I have trouble with making friends , because I don't seem to gel with them , if that makes sense.

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Some people with AS have more social issues, some have really narrow interests, some have sensory issues as their main thing and so on. No one has the parts of Asperger's equally much. I have noticed I navigate social situations much better than most aspies but I do worse at executive functioning than many. I have terrible issues starting an activity and then stopping it. My place is a total mess. I have some strong interests but they don't all count as narrow at all. I am better at some stuff but not like genius. Most people with AS do have an uneven profile in skills, most are not even in language skills, math, visuospatial, memory and whatever it is WAIS includes. You don't have to have super strengths at anything but usually you are way better at one thing than another. For me, I scored high on language and low on math.

You are not the only person with Asperger's who has this problem. There can be many reasons. Some folks can't seem to carry on a conversation outside, have trouble making eye contact, etc.

Do any of you folks have suggestions about making friends?

I did ok at maths according to my tests but I hated it. It gave me anxiety and I didn't enjoy it and if there was a subject I could throw out of the window it would have been that one. I've never been computer or engineering minded at all.

I do have narrow interests though... there are a rare few topics that I can get up a conversation about, although maybe to some extent that's a monologue... It is more about enthusiasm than knowledge though- for example I like rabbits and I can talk about rabbits at the rescue, my own rabbits etc, but I don't have a massive amount of knowledge for, say, rabbit breeds.

And yes, I don't gel well with other people either. Sometimes I can be friendly with someone, which isn't the same thing, but feel no inclination to further bond with them and five minutes after they've left I don't really think about them any more. As well as that, it is very easy to annoy me and then that person gets tainted and its hard to get out of my black books again lol

I want it though (friendship) , get so jealous when I see my old friends still get on so well . They meet up and go out etc . I guess I need to forget about them and move on . I have tried to make new friends, find it so hard , as I have nothing to say and talk about . If you see what I mean .

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I don't have friends either. I'm sure if you "want" friendship people will just perceive you as an attention-seeking loner and ignore you. Maybe you should change your mindset to "it would be better if I had someone I could talk to every day" which is what I'm gonna do too. We need to be confident in social situations and one way to do so is to go out more often. Although to be honest, it's easy for us to avoid going to bars and clubs. So where's a good place to start which doesn't overwhelm? The local shop? But won't we intrude on the shopkeeper's work? Oh look I seem to be rambling on... is that the reason why I don't have friends?

Hmmm I don't do crowds of people and don't really like going out on my own .

However, I did join a computer course at my local mental health centre , to refresh on my computers and to help on the social side of things. They do a drop-in at the centre , but don't feel brave enough to go yet. I did go once and got put off, all what I did was sat in a corner on my own . Hmmm

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I found a few people with Asperger's through the Internet in my city and we're going to grab a beer or coffee eventually. It's not the normal way of meeting people but it suits us.

Aww , hope you have fun .

The question is what is the normal way of meeting people?

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I don't really care and is it so important? Isn't making friends more important than how?

I don't have the "skills" to make friends in a normal matter so why try?

But a lot make friends through work or you get introduced to friends of your friends, like at dinners and parties.

Aww sorry hope I didn't offend you. I don't really have any friends to begin with , so hmm and don't really go out .

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