Read this conversation. In it, I'm NuclearHighway and kayla is a friend I talk to on the internet.

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Kayla: dont be mad at me nuclear but.... 11:28 PM

Kayla: when i first met you (which i have no idea when i did) i thought you were a jerk...like a stuck-up jerk that doesn't say anything 11:28 PM

Kayla: please........dont be mad. 11:28 PM

NuclearHighway: ... 11:28 PM

Kayla: no.. dont take it the wrong way 11:29 PM

Kayla: i dont anymore....that's a start right? 11:29 PM

NuclearHighway: not mad how could that be though i thought i was nice? 11:29 PM

Kayla: you are! you are the most amazingest (not a word) person i know! Aug 4

The awesome TheTraveler joined the chat 11:29 PM

NuclearHighway: kind of feel sad now sorry.. never realized i make bad first impressions.. 11:30 PM

Katie: uh, hi...I feel awkward just joining y'all's chat lol 11:30 PM

Kayla: idk though cos i thought that i was making things worse when i first met you, i would say hi and i thought u never said anything and that you would ignore me 11:30 PM

TheTraveler answered: Phoenix 11:30 PM

Kayla: no you don't! i guess its my fault 11:30 PM

daniela: hi katie 11:30 PM

Kayla: hey thetraveler 11:30 PM

TheTraveler: hey 11:30 PM

Katie: How is everyone doin? 11:30 PM

Kayla: because once i said hi i thought you never said anything back and when someone else came on you would say hi to them...so i thought you hated me.. @NuclearHighway Aug 4

Lily: I think I'm gonna go eveyone. See ya. 11:31 PM

Kayla: im great thanks! you? 11:31 PM

NuclearHighway: thanks so much for telling me that though 11:31 PM

Katie: Pretty well 11:31 PM

Kayla: you're welcome...i didn't want to hide it from you and i felt like it would be good if i told you 11:32 PM

Kayla: oh that's good to hear Katie [big grin] 11:32 PM

Kayla: wait did you just say thanks nuclear? 11:32 PM

NuclearHighway: i feel terrible.. 11:33 PM

Kayla: i feel sadder....im so sorry nuclear! 11:33 PM

Kayla: i didn't mean to ruin the mood ... 11:34 PM

NuclearHighway: its ok^^ 11:34 PM

Kayla: i feel like a terribly horrible person 11:34 PM

Kayla: its not ok! i shouldn't have said it.... 11:34 PM

Kayla: im so sorry... 11:34 PM

NuclearHighway: not your fault.. its me apparantly 11:34 PM

Kayla: [frown] 11:34 PM

Kayla: no its not you...it was me that "thought" you hated me.. 11:34 PM

The awesome psychoticmess joined the chat 11:35 PM

Kayla: i was being stupid and immature, i've always thought that you hated me and its all my fault for making you upset 11:35 PM

The awesome help joined the chat 11:35 PM

NuclearHighway: but i thought i told you that i was muti tasking at that time? 11:35 PM

help answered: Dragon 11:35 PM

Kayla: was that the first time we met? or was it later on? 11:35 PM

psychoticmess: hey help 11:36 PM

NuclearHighway: both 11:36 PM

Kayla: cos i cant remember all i remember was talking to Anonymous Batman at that time 11:36 PM

help: hello 11:36 PM

psychoticmess: what's up? 11:36 PM

Kayla: i probably didn't see... 11:36 PM

NuclearHighway: we are ok though. im just afraid of talking to new people now. 11:36 PM

Kayla: omg! no you shouldn't be! 11:36 PM

help: [crying] 11:36 PM

The awesome AJ joined the chat 11:37 PM

psychoticmess: what's wrong? 11:37 PM

Kayla: please....dont stop talking to new people nuclear 11:37 PM

daniela: what's the matter help? 11:37 PM

AJ: Kayla [frown] 11:37 PM

Kayla: im banned from kik AJ [frown] 11:37 PM

AJ: How? 11:37 PM

Kayla: it was me being stupid nuclear im so sorry for thinking that 11:37 PM

NuclearHighway: i have a bad first impression on people psychoticmess. but i dunno maybe 11:37 PM

help: do you guys ever feel lonely & suicidal ? Aug 4

TheTraveler: everyday 11:38 PM

Kayla: cos my parents dont want me on kik for some stupid reason 11:38 PM

AJ: Kayla i need a hug 11:38 PM

daniela: all the time 11:38 PM

Kayla: you dont nuclear!! 11:38 PM

psychoticmess: every often help. 11:38 PM

AJ: Yes help I do 11:38 PM

Kayla: [hug] @AJ 11:38 PM

Kiana was AFK for 1 hour and got auto-kicked 11:38 PM

Kayla: wats rong? 11:38 PM

help: sucks huh ? 11:38 PM

AJ: No I get over it 11:38 PM

NuclearHighway: well, i think about it over time. were ok though [big grin] 11:38 PM

Kayla: nuclear plz forgive me 11:39 PM

Kayla: [big grin] really? 11:39 PM

Kayla: we are? 11:39 PM

NuclearHighway: i do i was never mad at you 11:39 PM

TheTraveler: It's kind of a never ending circle for me 11:39 PM

Kayla: but..i thought..... 11:39 PM

psychoticmess: LOL it does help 11:39 PM

daniela: yes help it does but i always feel a bit better knowing it's not only me but many others 11:39 PM

daniela: not to say i'm happy others are sad but you're not alone 11:39 PM

psychoticmess: ^true 11:39 PM

Kayla: [big grin] im glad nuclear! [big grin] thanks so much!!! 11:39 PM

Kayla: yay!! [big grin] 11:40 PM
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This hit me like a truck. I never knew that my first impressions on people made me look like such a terrible person. I know Im nice but this is probably why a lot of people hate me. I know that its just an internet chat but this happens in real life as well i just don't know what to say, cant understand social concepts very well im just confused this is complicated..

I thought I was just alone because I live in a small town but just realized that theres a lot of people out there that just think that im a jerk..

[rosska]

I can understand why it would be hard to hear, though honestly man I wouldn't take it personally. Research has shown that people make their 'first impressions' about people they meet in the first 7 seconds... That's not a huge amount of time, in fact for people on the spectrum that's probably half the time it'd take for us to decide on how to say hello.

The up side which you should try to focus on is that this person looked past their early judgements and got to know you and then was worried that she'd upset you by telling you about her first impressions.

A story my mum always tells me about first impressions is that when she first met my dad (she was working in a pub and he was on shore leave from the RAF) she thought he was a loud, immature, military idiot. She ended up marrying him and being married to him for over 25 years until my father died. First impressions are only that, impressions. They can't possibly tell you anything about the person that actually matters.