[tesseract49]

I really don't want to come across as a bad person but I have noticed that I have a habbit of exagerrating my emotions to get sympathy from others. I get depressed about things sometimes and I feel like they are not concerned enough. My friends often tell me to 'stop being so dramatic'. There was a time a while ago when I told someone that I was suicidal when I wasn't really feeling quite that bad. I got into trouble because of it. I also felt sometimes like I want to be diagnosed with an illness just to get sympathy. I really don't mean to be like this, but I can be very manipulative at times. I have aspergers syndrome, but I'm not sure if this problem is caused by that. Does anyone know why I might be like this?

[CantExplain]

Could it be you are lonely and depressed?

Also, Aspergics may have trouble reading the subtler emotions. Only the strongest emotions get through.

[tesseract49]

I am always lonely and depressed, but I do have a tendency to lie about things to get sympathy.

I tend to minimize things - so I am the opposite. I don't want to worry others. I don't have an answer to your question but you are in my thoughts. I think your honesty about the issue is a healthy step and exploring it, perhaps with a T, will lead to you to a higher level of happiness and functioning - including improved relationships. I think it is normal to want others to be attentive and supportive to us - and reciprocity in relationships is important. Take care.

[tesseract49]

I am surprised that no one else seems to feel like this. I find myself often exagerrated how bad I feel or making up a story to get people to feel sorry for me or to get my own way. I know it sounds very manipulative. I do get depressed a lot and when I get depressed I need to talk to someone. Sometimes I think I just worry too much. I used to be described as an over-active thinker when I was a child.

[-jimi-]

I don't want to exaggerate. But when I tell people the truth if I feel bad, they don't believe me. I guess because my body language isn't totally into it, I'm used to just verbalize.

Because of that I have got way too little pain relief when I was in severe pain, and way too slow response from an old pdoc who didn't see the severity of my depression.

It has dawned on me to exaggerate to the point where they understand what it is that I feel. But I can't make myself do it. It feels wrong.

[tesseract49]

I can definitely relate to that. I am quite an emotionally sensitive person, but I don't tend to show it. I come a cross as an emotional person, because I tend to over use emoticons. I also do type over-sentimental messages. I think that might be what it is, that I feel these emotions, but don't physically display them. The only problem is that doesn't explain wanting to be diagnosed with an illness just for the purpose of telling other about it. I wonder sometimes if I actually have depression or anxiety, because I have a lot of symptoms of that. Some of the personallity disorders as well. It could be that I just don't believe myself, if that can be possible.