[Askildsen]

My mother resents me for being autistic. I am really lonely, sometimes it gets painful and my chest hurts so bad. I probably won't ever have a normal life with a wife and kids and a job. I'm trying to get in touch with people, I really do try to get through the day. Just keep going, Askildsen, don't give up. I f you have to use all you energy on staying alive and coping, that's fine. At least you're not destroying nations or mass murdering people!

[Tsukiko]

it's nice to meet you, Askildsen. Definitely don't give up. You have so much to offer the world. Don't forget that. Feel free to PM me at any time.

[Lexi232]

[eskielover]

It's not easy & there are more challenges. If you can get help with mentoring & help getting you onto a path that works for you to find your strengths to work on, you will find a satisfying place in your life.

Honestly, marriage & family can be overrated & can be too much of a challenge unless the right person is found. I would set my focus on what you can achieve & if the right person & marriage comes along, that's icing on the cake (not literally)

[TwinVergil]

I stayed in Albuquerque, New Mexico for about a year from July 2014 - July 2015. I was alone over there and in that time I wasn't able to make a proper friend until the May. I'm still seeking if I might be on the ASD, because it was extremely hard for me to make a friend. I didn't have a clue how to do it. I remember going everyday to a GameStop store and spoke a lot about videogames with the workers there hoping one could become my friend, but I think I was weird or did something wrong because no matter how many things I did, none worked. I even searched on google how to make friends in a new city.

Anyway, I have some great talents as well. I love writing and people say I'm good at it. I love videogames and am well respected in some of my favorite fighting games. I love imagining stories... I dunno, even if it comes with it's cons, I wouldn't change whatever I might have or be on for somebody's approval if it meant losing these talents or changing my perspective.

[Finniky]

Originally Posted by Askildsen

My mother resents me for being autistic. I am really lonely, sometimes it gets painful and my chest hurts so bad. I probably won't ever have a normal life with a wife and kids and a job. I'm trying to get in touch with people, I really do try to get through the day. Just keep going, Askildsen, don't give up. I f you have to use all you energy on staying alive and coping, that's fine. At least you're not destroying nations or mass murdering people!

Hey Askildsen. Sorry you're feeling so down.

I think how you view your future outlook is just not true! You know, I think some people with autism reach out to groups and stuff where they come together and provide support and community. There are women who are more like you than you would think in the world, some with autism, some without it.

I watched a documentary called Autism in Love and it was about autistic couples. It was really sweet.

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Also, all the individuals with autism in that documentary (except one young one) had good jobs!

welcome to the forum!.

i don't think their's anything more to add here, what i was going to say has been said

autistic people can be extremely successfulf

1 of my best friends laura.. she was autistic, and she's now doing well at university and has her heart set on doing something along the lines of journalism.

so... who knows. you could actually be really successfulf and have a good life

[Ceara1010]

Originally Posted by Askildsen

My mother resents me for being autistic. I am really lonely, sometimes it gets painful and my chest hurts so bad. I probably won't ever have a normal life with a wife and kids and a job. I'm trying to get in touch with people, I really do try to get through the day. Just keep going,

I'm not autistic, but people in my family are--all the men on my father's side of the family, and my sister. Growing up amongst so many people on the scale has given me some "learned traits."

I don't know what a "normal life" is and frankly, I don't think it exists.

Many people on the Autism scale marry and have families. Many have great jobs, even high paying ones. (Silicon Valley is full of people on the scale--i.e. Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates--so much so, companies recruit them.)

Oliver Sacks, the great neurologist wrote a wonderful essay on autism called "An Anthropolotist on Mars". Have you read it? It's collected in a book of his essays an people with neurological differences, also called An Anthropologist on Mars He met and worked with many people on the autism scale, and there are lots of success stories.

Your mother probably has trouble relating to you because people on the autism scale are socially different, and in my experience, women are less tolerant of people who are socially different. They tend to have expectations of way people are supposed to behave (read: social rules). Even worse, not every woman has the same set of expectations and they expect you to read their minds and just magically know what it is they expect. (I'm ADD, which makes me socially different, too, so I empathize about this problem.)

Hang in there, and Google for some Autism Spectrum success stories to read. There are lots of them.

--Ceara1010