[ToeJam]

I guess I am (irl) too trusting of people and this has led to me having serious head screw moments... I guess as a result of being unable to reconcile between what someone says and what they actually do.

Further problem with this is that I don't have a happy medium when it comes to dealing with change - I either go to one extreme or the other (once the initial overwhelm meltdown has passed)... in this instance, I've stopped talking or socializing much with 'anyone', not just those that I've had issue with.

It's left me feeling rudderless... as I would like to think I'm a social person at heart... but the reaction of others (in this specific instance - health care professionals) can be so woolly and all over the place, that I'm scared to open my mouth in case I inadvertently shoot myself in the foot.

From a fellow aspie point of view, would be interesting to see if others have faced this kind of problem?... how did you deal with it? Were you happy with the result?

[snickie]

Well when I was three or four I was at SeaWorld with my parents and my grandmother (possibly others, I forget, this is all supplied from what my parents told me because I don't remember it very well at all). We were in the kid area and I was going down the slide over and over and over again. My grandmother went to the bathroom. Apparently something caught my eye and I ran off into the crowd. I was missing for about 20 minutes before a park guy walked up to my parents. I was holding his hand like it was nothing. My mom worries about my trusting nature back then - that park guy could have been anyone else - a serial killer or a pedophile or <insert terrible awful person here>.

Not so sure about nowadays. My instinct is to take things at face value, maybe make a few judgements in my head, but it usually takes time for me to start questioning. I joke that, during an interview or talk or whatever when they say, "Do you have any questions for us?" I reply, "I'm sure I'll think of one when I'm halfway home and can't do anything about it." But anyway, unless they're acting really sketchy or I've had some kind of forewarning that put me on my guard ahead of time, I tend to be fairly trusting I guess.

[Nike007]

Hello. I have gone through a similar case. I told a few people things that I wish I never did and it bite me back (sorry if that is a bad expression, not too good with these). Now, I have problems trusting people. I don't want to talk to people at things. Well, that was a few years ago. I am getting better now at trusting. Not 100%, but better.

My opinion: you slowly tell people things about. Just the small stuff first. Only with people you are comfortable with of course. Like, start with your favourite colour. Just tell funny stories that have happened with or to you. Something non-serious and not controversial like religion or something like that. Don't talk about you, ask for them to talk about themselves. If they trust you, you will eventually trust them more too. Just really DXed with ASD - 1 (Aspergers). Hope this helps .

Social anxiety disorder, ASD, GAD, OCD, and panic disorder

Lexapro, 10 mg; Ativan 0.5 mg PRN

[Fuzzybear]

Yes yes yes. I told a very few people IRL stuff I wish I hadn't (nothing I'd done "wrong" ) and OMG my bear butt is still needing balm

[Anonymous37919]

I don't trust a great deal of people any more, because the people in my life haven't treated me nice. I've really grown bored of trying to be noticed and loved.

I'm not even a fan of the police, the NHS, money grabbing foreigners, or any of these people. I've always felt other disabled people care for and understand more about your needs than the useless and neurotypical paid lackeys do.

I guess in a way, the government and its health divisions have to categorize everything medically, for they'd be accused of neglect if they didn't. So they micro-manage this by employing half baked tatties with no passion. Unfotunately, our open nature can set us up to fail. Once I blabbed about my whole life story to them, they low blowed me in the balls. This is a classic example of people using you to get moved up the ranks, or to feed their own egos. It's all outmoded, really.

Sigh.