[beatles1234]

I have the worst habit of pushing people away, they try to be my friend but I`m always so afraid I`ll mess it up that I will keep them at a distance. I feel uncomfortable around almost everyone, even family, and am close to completely isolating myself really soon. I`m so afraid to even talk to my brother, I`m pretty sure that I`ve never had a full conversation with him ever because I`m afraid I`ll say something completely stupid and he will stop loving me. I only have one friend left from high school and even then I`m scared of rejection. I`m afraid I`ll do something wrong and totally my friendship with him. Even though we are good friends he barely knows anything about me and had told me I`m mysterious , it`s not that I don`t want to tell him anything about myself its just that I`m afraid it will destroy everything I worked so hard to achieve. I`m tired of constantly pushing everyone away, tired of isolating myself, and tired of never letting one get to know the true me. I just don`t know what to do

[roads]

A whole bunch of us have been talking about this very same thing in the past few days. It's like something's in the air, because suddenly we're so many of us aware of this. I'm very glad you came along just now--great timing!

If you read thru this & other forums (esp Psychotherapy) I think you'll find a lot of posts you can connect with. Feel free to jump in with comments or questions. I hope you find the sort of support you're looking for.

[cbataran]

Hey i understand (: i push people away all the time and I'm tired of it to ... I have a boyfriend but i am constantly pushing him away and i don't know why he is with me . I honestly think he should break up with me but i really don't want him to . I'm such a confusing Pearson i know :/ i contradict myself all the time . I want people to be friends with me and close with me yet i push them away . So i understand you . Your not alone !

We just need to find people that are patient with us and slowly let them in . Make goals for yourself . Like this weeks goal is to tell that friend something about you . Just keep making little goals and setting them for yourself and then you will be able to trust that Pearson .

Anyways I'm new here so thought id just put in mah opinion

[Snap66]

Hi Beatles,

I know when I push people away it's really me testing them out, seeing if they will be my friend though thick & thin.

Kind of knowing who to trust and pushing them away to see if they stay.

Best wishes
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[beatles1234]

Originally Posted by cbataran

Hey i understand (: i push people away all the time and I'm tired of it to ... I have a boyfriend but i am constantly pushing him away and i don't know why he is with me . I honestly think he should break up with me but i really don't want him to . I'm such a confusing Pearson i know :/ i contradict myself all the time . I want people to be friends with me and close with me yet i push them away . So i understand you . Your not alone !

We just need to find people that are patient with us and slowly let them in . Make goals for yourself . Like this weeks goal is to tell that friend something about you . Just keep making little goals and setting them for yourself and then you will be able to trust that Pearson .

Anyways I'm new here so thought id just put in mah opinion

Thank you so much for you opinion and support , I think I will try your idea about having a goals.