Why would any girl want me?

"love me for who i am" thing is not real, dude, because we dont know what the "real me" is. Its just an image of yourself in your mind which can be as fake as any fake thing can be. It takes ages to understand the "real me", let alone someone else to understand the "real you".

That is such ********.

I think that you should stop focusing on whether or not girls think that you are inferior to other guys. I think that you should feel happy with who you are before you attempt to date anyone. Also, if you find any dude who acts like he is better than you, then what you should do is tell him that he looks like a fag. Ask him if he is looking to get *A*S*S* raped or something. If he wants to stick something up his *A*S*S* then he should looks up the term "butt-plug" on the internet. Maybe he can find some dude who fins him slightly interesting because you don't.

Here click that link up there. You can use that as motivational music to encourage you to let those arrogant asses know where they kind find their sexual fixes at.

I used to say the same. I was always shying myself away from other women. Now I became more confident and opened myself up to women. Be who you are. There will be a woman that likes you for exactly who you are.

You and I are just gonna keep butting heads, aren't we?

Alright, let me give you a girls perspective on this. (Note: This is MY perspective. I'm not trying to speak for the rest of you girls out there.)

Working out.I could not care less about the physical state of a guy. You can work out 24/7 and it won't change my opinion of you.
Reading. Again, you can come out with a dazzling line-up of knowledge, and I won't care. In fact, I might find it annoying.
Art. Regardless of the media hype, not everyone can be an artist. Some people might not want to be an artist.
Learning to be funny. Funny should be effortless. I don't think it's something you can learn.

All I have left to say is: If it's so easy, why don't you do it? Why are you even here?

You mean that a fat, immature, dull and boring boy is the same as a well built, passionate, funny and mature boy to your eyes? You must be kidding me. Seriously girl, what do you look for in a boy?
Being funny for boys is like being beautifull for girls, it should look like it is effortless but it cannot be effortless.
Must agree that doing this is not simple but you should stop pretending that you dont know what to do.
Why am i here? Because i have AvPD.
Why am i single? Because the girl i love died.

Very good points

I didn't say that. My point was that none of those things matter to me if it's fake. I don't know what I look for in a boy, however, because I've never even had a conversation with one I wasn't related to.
It's easy for me to be funny. When I want to be.
Just what do you mean by that?
...I'd say sorry, but 1) That doesn't mean much from a stranger, and 2) I don't know why people always say that.

Ok, that explains a lot.

And just what does it explain?

That you are a child, maybe 16 yr or less

I'm 18. What does my age have to do with anything?

You will understand after 2-3 years.
Lets not hijack the thread, we are not helping

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Yeah, ok. Sorry. And I'm sorry if all this made anyone uncomfortable.

Just because someone's never had a conversation with a guy that makes them a child? Lol what?

HOW DARE YOU LOL MEEE! Just kidding. You are allowed to have your opinion but without trying to make others look ridiculous.

What you said kind of offended me so I reacted to it. I'm sorry for making you think that I'm trying to make you look ridiculous. I don't try to make anyone look ridiculous. I just react to things that offend me.

I didnt wish to do that, I just belive social interaction is an important part of growing up. Ok, sorry if i offended you.

I'm sorry, too.

I kind of think I was born with low self esteem. People have always told me I'm beautiful/ smart/ talented. And I have an amazingly loving family but I remember even as early as kindergarten hating that I was bigger than the other girls and noticing that the smallest girl in the class got the most piggybacks. I didn't think of myself as fat, just that there was something wrong.
And when I'm told stories of me as a baby apparently I could just be left alone for a good half hour with no toys and I'd be content. And when I fell I'd pick myself back up. I still can simply sit and observe and when I'm hurt pyhsically/emotionally I avoid others but now I know why; I'm uncomfortable with attention and I don't want to be an attention seeker because no one wants to deal with my issues that I'm just making a big deal of.

This thread just gave me a good laugh.

Glad you enjoyed it.

I would agree that some people are possibly born with a tendency for things like low-self esteem because their personality makes them more easily offended etc. You know, some people are more sensitive than others, like me for example.

But, I'm really the opposite. I crave attention. I THRIVE on it. I'm a performer anyway and by the way I look, no one is going to forget me. But I can't connect with others in anything other than a superficial way. And if I try to connect at a deeper levels I become terrified that the person is going to hurt me. And not necessarily emotionally—with guys I'm afraid that they will physically hurt me in very bad ways and I honestly see them as monsters and start avoiding them. I mean, I know what happens if I get too close to a guy or even try to... And with girls, I become more and more jealous of them the more I know them and it's really bad for my self-esteem to be around them and see how they have things that I want (like say a relationship for example). Or I'll become attracted to them...but it's worse for guys if I become attracted to them (I will avoid them as much as possible). But then, what do I know? Apparently my current psychiatrist doesn't believe that I have AvPD at all...that I just have long-term depression, anxiety, and a mood disorder.