Attention seeker

AzulOscuro · Jan 02, 2015 at 08:09 PM

Uff! I was said in another forum by an user that with only notice how much I post, it's clear that I'm craving for attention. And, now I'm wondering if it's false or may be some truth in this remark.

I'm moré open up people than ever. I want to talk with people, i want to share, encourage them, learn from them. So, I didn't take this remark as an offense. I'm learning about me and others, then so many years of isolation.

I like being nice with people because they deserve it.
Not so many time ago, I thought life and people stinks. However, some people around me, had a possitive influence on my way to see life.
I like when someone makes a possitive remark about me. Is it so bad?

I nearly daré with writing here.

jelly-bean · Jan 02, 2015 at 08:50 PM

I don't know what forum you received the bad remark in but we don't mind if you post and ask questions. We are all here to learn and to help each other the best we can.

Jan 02, 2015 at 10:36 PM

I don't think of you as an attention seeker. I think you are wanting to engage. It's good

I thought that was the point of PC. It said somewhere on here the more you post the more you will benefit. Also, IMO, it is thoughtful and helpful of you to respond to other's postings as often as you do.

A Red Panda · Jan 03, 2015 at 11:34 AM

I don't think you're an attention-seeker!

You're trying to initiate conversations, especially here in regards to AvoidantPD where it's usually pretty dead!

I'm actually really proud of you for not taking offence to that comment and furthermore, being open to addressing it here! That really shows how much progress you've made over the years.

AzulOscuro · Jan 03, 2015 at 02:03 PM

Thank you, Red. Your comment is very nice.
Yeah, I think that I have progressed a lot. I used to have very fixed thoughts in relation to everything: people, politics, laws, rules, myself... Do you know what's the best? It's people the ones who taught me to see the things in a different way.
So, I really love to interact with you all.

AzulOscuro · Jan 03, 2015 at 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by jelly-bean

I don't know what forum you received the bad remark in but we don't mind if you post and ask questions. We are all here to learn and to help each other the best we can.

It's another Psych help forum, in the AvPD subforum. The thing is that there aren't many people who start new threads and I usually open a new topic now and them. AvPD subforums are the ones that I feel I belong to, so each idea I have, I express there.
The same as here.

AzulOscuro · Jan 03, 2015 at 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by GreenMoss

I don't think of you as an attention seeker. I think you are wanting to engage. It's good

I thought that was the point of PC. It said somewhere on here the more you post the more you will benefit. Also, IMO, it is thoughtful and helpful of you to respond to other's postings as often as you do.

I know that I sometimes write and reply people in a familiar way and that I sometimes write very personal stuff about me, but this is how I am in my life.

Teepee · Jan 04, 2015 at 06:32 AM

Hey AO,

I think it's great you can put yourself out there, I read a lot of what is posted on a few different areas but very rarely reply and have only started three??? Threads as I'm so scared I will be ignored, judged and dismissed.

Good on you!!

Jan 04, 2015 at 07:58 AM

i don't know you,

but i'm pretty sure you're not an attention seeker.

you're just asking questions and getting help like any other member on here

AzulOscuro · Jan 04, 2015 at 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Teepee

Hey AO,

I think it's great you can put yourself out there, I read a lot of what is posted on a few different areas but very rarely reply and have only started three??? Threads as I'm so scared I will be ignored, judged and dismissed.

Good on you!!

Don't be afraid. I know that many users read but don't daré to post. It's all in our minds. Noone is going to ignore us or laugh at us in a place like this. The same will happen in many other places, being those on line or real life, people don't ignore us. We are the one who put ourselves in a position to be unnoticed.
This is the price we pay for ours fears and our rigid way of thinking.
All is in our minds.

I have pósted in many ocassions, a thread and recived zero answers.
Should I think that people are ignoring me? Why? Is it that I'm the worst boring person in the world? Do they this bc they don't like me? No, they don't know me.

There are moré possibilities that the thread was read and tgey don't know what to reply. Or they, perhaps, are not interesting in the topic, or agree with what I posted and they don't have anything else to say, or...or that the ones who read the thread are afraid of being ignored, like you, and don't post.

Welcome back! A long time without reading your posts. I missed you.

Teepee · Jan 04, 2015 at 09:22 PM

Awwww shucks,

Thanks AO, I think you are very brave and aspire to be a bit more happy go lucky just like you

My head kinda understands that there could be many reasons for people not replying but my head always gets in the way

and it usually wins.

AzulOscuro · Jan 05, 2015 at 03:22 AM

You only have to know well this part of your head that is the avoidance and stop it in time.
I'm not implying in my comment that it's an easy thing to do though.

mountain human · Jan 05, 2015 at 05:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

You only have to know well this part of your head that is the avoidance and stop it in time.
I'm not implying in my comment that it's an easy thing to do though.

I remember you said that you consider yourself an optimist. And here I thought all AvPD types were pessimistic like me lol! Avoidant personalities tend to get isolated and lonely due to the very nature of "avoidance", so it would be logical that we would crave attention more than most.

AzulOscuro · Jan 05, 2015 at 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by mountain human

I remember you said that you consider yourself an optimist. And here I thought all AvPD types were pessimistic like me lol! Avoidant personalities tend to get isolated and lonely due to the very nature of "avoidance", so it would be logical that we would crave attention more than most.

The thing is that there are no many people posting new threads and I need to share with people a lot. Because, I need it and bc I've been living with this disorder for 42 years old.
You are right. We crave for contact and this is the safest kind of contact I know and the most comfortable for me.

Before joining to any AvPD forum, that is, before being diagnosed, I felt as if any social contact I had, made me feel unsatisfied. I wasn't able to stablish a deep contact with anyone. Call me idiot if you want but I think AvPD forum increased my social abilities and at the same time, it has been a way to compensate my urges for socialization.

Hey, I'm an avoidant and as such, I always was a pesimist however I changed a lot with therapy and people's support.

Thanks for your reply.

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jelly-bean Magnate Member Since Aug 2012 Location: Arizona Posts: 2,564 11 976 hugs given	Jan 02, 2015 at 08:50 PM #2 I don't know what forum you received the bad remark in but we don't mind if you post and ask questions. We are all here to learn and to help each other the best we can.
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Anonymous37868 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 02, 2015 at 10:36 PM #3 I don't think of you as an attention seeker. I think you are wanting to engage. It's good I thought that was the point of PC. It said somewhere on here the more you post the more you will benefit. Also, IMO, it is thoughtful and helpful of you to respond to other's postings as often as you do.
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AzulOscuro Grand Magnate Member Since Nov 2014 Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!) Posts: 3,825 9 1,758 hugs given	Jan 03, 2015 at 02:03 PM #5 Thank you, Red. Your comment is very nice. Yeah, I think that I have progressed a lot. I used to have very fixed thoughts in relation to everything: people, politics, laws, rules, myself... Do you know what's the best? It's people the ones who taught me to see the things in a different way. So, I really love to interact with you all.
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Teepee Member Member Since Aug 2013 Location: Land of sand Posts: 109 10 20 hugs given	Jan 04, 2015 at 06:32 AM #8 Hey AO, I think it's great you can put yourself out there, I read a lot of what is posted on a few different areas but very rarely reply and have only started three??? Threads as I'm so scared I will be ignored, judged and dismissed. Good on you!!
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Anonymous32451 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 04, 2015 at 07:58 AM #9 i don't know you, but i'm pretty sure you're not an attention seeker. you're just asking questions and getting help like any other member on here
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Teepee Member Member Since Aug 2013 Location: Land of sand Posts: 109 10 20 hugs given	Jan 04, 2015 at 09:22 PM #11 Awwww shucks, Thanks AO, I think you are very brave and aspire to be a bit more happy go lucky just like you My head kinda understands that there could be many reasons for people not replying but my head always gets in the way and it usually wins.
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AzulOscuro Grand Magnate Member Since Nov 2014 Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!) Posts: 3,825 9 1,758 hugs given	Jan 05, 2015 at 03:22 AM #12 You only have to know well this part of your head that is the avoidance and stop it in time. I'm not implying in my comment that it's an easy thing to do though.
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