[Moose72]

I've been seeing him for almost 4 years. He complains how he hates his life and needs his time to do his thing. So everything is going well with that- he goes taking pictures, writing his book, exercising, etc. But now everything he hates about himself, he looks at me and asks why don't I do judo, write a book, he started dating a thin woman and now.... We've been OVER all this. I told him I'd lose weight for me not him and he says that's what all women say and why don't women see that as important, etc. Its making me grumpy. Nothing I do is good enough. And when I DO go do something and tell him what is is, he says he doesn't want "reports". Every aspect of my life he seems dissatisfied with. Its frustrating me to no end! I don't go into his life and say "You should... you need... why don't you.... why aren't you..." GRR Now he's not talking to me.

[ADHD1956]

Originally Posted by Moose72

I've been seeing him for almost 4 years. He complains how he hates his life and needs his time to do his thing. So everything is going well with that- he goes taking pictures, writing his book, exercising, etc. But now everything he hates about himself, he looks at me and asks why don't I do judo, write a book, he started dating a thin woman and now.... We've been OVER all this. I told him I'd lose weight for me not him and he says that's what all women say and why don't women see that as important, etc. Its making me grumpy. Nothing I do is good enough. And when I DO go do something and tell him what is is, he says he doesn't want "reports". Every aspect of my life he seems dissatisfied with. Its frustrating me to no end! I don't go into his life and say "You should... you need... why don't you.... why aren't you..." GRR Now he's not talking to me.

Time for a new boyfriend! Do you have friends you spend time with?

I wish you the Very Best!!!

[Lauru]

It sounds like you need a new boyfriend. One who loves and supports you unconditionally. I hate to hear you struggle so hard to please someone like he sounds.

I hope it gets better for you. Just remember, you deserve better

[Crazynurse]

Ahhhhh Moose, being bipolar is hard enough but to deal with a person who is so critical of you and unsupportive makes life even harder......he doesn't sound like he is happy nor do you........time to move on. I know 4 yrs is alot of time to have invested in a relationship and you probably feel that you need to try and hold on to it but, my courtship and marriage went on for 39 yrs before we both realized we weren't happy anymore.......there is life out there and life is short.....you need to spend time making YOU happy !!!!!

[Berries]

I agree with everyone else on this thread.

You deserve a new, nice, caring, noncritical Boyfriend!!!

You deserve the BEST!