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Pls. forgive me but I am too exhausted to go into details of everything that has happened. I appreciate all of the support and advice I have received from this group, truly you have all been wonderful.

I just want to know before I try to move on, if I have done everything I can possibly for my ex. bf. I have friends that have family members diagnosed with BP, and they are supportive, yet in listening to them, and knowing much of what my ex. is going through is related to BP, I need to know I have all that I can for him. I believe he is going through a paranoia, psychotic stage, and I say this because the pdoc has also said he is paranoid with psychosis. He really believes I wanted to stay 3000 miles from home and lose my job, he really does. He left almost 2 wks. ago and called me after a week, he doesn't know if I'm ok or not. He wanted to know how to use the grill so he could prep. lunch and he went out to the theatre last Sat. nite. In my opinion, he is either an extremely uncaring person or he is in such a state. I only give this background info. because he has quit seeing his (our) therapist and he will no longer let me speak w/ his pdoc. If there is anything else I can or should do for him, please let me know. I have tried talking to him the day he called, but he is still in his own world of denial. If you believe I have done all that I can, then I will need to find a way to live with that. Even with all that he has done, I still love him, yet in some ways I can't blame the BP for all of his decisions. Thank you again for any advice and insight you can give me.

IF he is NOT doing HIS part.
There really is Nothing you can do.

I am a big time Bipolar and very difficult person to get along with -

So from my mouth I tell you

Don't let him pull you down..... I know you have love for him....

But like a tree if you put too much weight on it - it will eventually fall over...
So if you take on HIS issues you may find yourself baring depression.

It sounds like you've done all you can - Which in itself is GREAT.
Most people don't even try...
If you believe you have then it is time to step back - just my opinion

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Originally Posted by starlite*111

IF he is NOT doing HIS part.
There really is Nothing you can do.

I am a big time Bipolar and very difficult person to get along with -

So from my mouth I tell you

Don't let him pull you down..... I know you have love for him....

But like a tree if you put too much weight on it - it will eventually fall over...
So if you take on HIS issues you may find yourself baring depression.

It sounds like you've done all you can - Which in itself is GREAT.
Most people don't even try...
If you believe you have then it is time to step back - just my opinion

Thank you Starlite. I think what is happening, now that the shock of what happened is wearing off, I'm beginning to question myself. I truly believe what you say, he needs to help himself also. Thank you again for your honesty.

[NuckingFutz]

man. That is a tough call. Maybe a last try will help...how about an ultiatum...he gets help and sticks with it or your gone

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Originally Posted by NuckingFutz

man. That is a tough call. Maybe a last try will help...how about an ultiatum...he gets help and sticks with it or your gone

I have been working for almost a year and a half. He walked out on me last year, but at least I had a home and job. Beacuse he left me 3000 miles away it took me two weeks to finally get back East, but because I lived with him I do not have a home and I lost my job. So ,even with that, I went to pick up a few things and he wanted to talk. He said he would go to a new therapist, one that his pdoc. would recommend that understands BP, he still loves me...etc. He had to be somewhere, so I left. Later on he called and said he has changed his mind again, it's all me and I'm the one in need of help. He's sorry if I am hurt, but he doesn't want this to work. I must be nuts, to have lost my home and job because he left me so far from home and yet still listened to what he had to say. He keeps ripping my heart out. So anyway I guess the thing is...I have always been more than willing to go with him for help, and he really doesn't care about the untimatum thing...he has a home and job....and I guess he could care less about what happens to me.......I guess that's my answer isn't it?