bs continues but this time it's partly my fault

I got a call from the crackhead's girlfriend last night. She was really upset with her crackhead. Said she didn't feel safe. Told her to come over...big mistake...big!

Things were fine until he showed up around 3:00 am this morning. I told his girlfriend to go in the bathroom and lock the door. She left her keys on the coffee table and he saw them. So I told her to come out that he knew she was there. I can't believe I got in the middle of that. I should have never answered the door. Nothing happened but they went outside to talk. Respectively, they both tell me they don't want the relationship.

Lesson learned, don't try and help someone who really isn't ready to do anything. Don't waste your time on these people, they argue then they leave without a word.

I don't want this drama, I just though I was helping the girlfriend because she told me about an incident of violence and was scared he would do it again.

I spent a lot of time with her yesterday making sure she was safe and that she had someone to talk to. I think it was a big waste of time now.

I think on my phone I have a block call feature. I think I am going to use with both of their phones. I don't need the drama and I really did thing I was trying to help the girlfriend.

I know I made a mistake in letting the girlfriend come over because I was up most of the night. I have therapy later this afternoon. I will be embarassed to tell t what I did because I have enough drama already. I got rid of the neighbor so that worked out.

Has anyone else been nieve enough to get involved in something like this?

I think it would be best to block both their calls because they waste their time when they complain about the other's behavior and then turn around and like just leave.

You tried to help shield someone from physical harm. Very noble gesture. You now know you don't want to do it again. Lesson learned.

Don't beat yourself up about it. Your plan regarding the telephone blocking, etc. is a good one. Don't worry about what T says. Life is about learning lessons.

I have faith in you.

Thank you so much for the validation. I believe that for every action there is a reaction. Action...they come to me for help...I have blocked both their numbers from my phone. I can use the peep hole and not answer the door. Neighbor says that is the smartest thing because now that they both left together, most likely found a common focus for their negative energy...most likely me.

Don't beat up on yourself for trying to help. You've learned what you need to from this incident. I used to do the same thing in my family. Always tried to be the mediator or protector in relationships gone bad. In the end, it was too stressful and harmful to me so I had to move far away from it. I still get phone calls about the drama on a regular basis, but at least it doesn't interfere with my life every day like it did before.

There are a lot of sensitive people who have many problems because they feel so much and care so much about other people's feelings...to the detriment of their own well being. Hence the whole boundaries cliche.

You're not alone in this phenomenon.

Thanks thinker. I learned my lesson. Unfortunately crackheads always turn up again when they want something and they turn on the charm. Lets see how strong i am. The gf said he would not sleep with me because he says i am a psychotic ***** that has to take medication for the rest of my life. Cannot honestly say a statement like that would put me in the mood. The gf also joined my lesbian coffee club cause she thinks she is a lesbian.going to stick with you all because you guys are a lot more sane than they are.