[goodgirl62]

When I have issues's with my mother she says I am bipolar. The therapists I have seeing for like the last 4 years says no it's depression. I have bombarded my mother and sister with my daily teen drama via long distance phone calls. My family lives out of state. My sister has never been able to have children ( Bless her Heart) and my mother is the queen of mean. So, yes I guess I can get on the defense when I am trying to express myself. I was really just looking for a listening ear and maybe some advise. I felt like they really didn't want to hear it so, I would blurt it out as fast as I could. I guess that's a bit selfish of me not to let them say anything till I was done. I didn't mean for it to be that way. I just had so much to say in such a short time. My mother thinks because I get upset easily( she taught me well) that I am bipolar. I have been advised for years not to tell her anything but I kept forgiving her. So if I get upset and try to defend myself, because I can't seem to do anything right in her eyes, she calls me bipolar. I quit taking Wellbutrin due to my severe hyperhydrosis problem but I do take up to 3 pills of 0.5mg of xanax as needed. I am still depressed but much better than a few years back. Could I have been diagnosed incorrectly? Check out my profile for more understanding of my issues. Thanks for listening.

I see this from people all the time. Just saying, "So and so must be bipolar." It's all the misinformation that is out there about bipolar disorder. Your mom is just being ignorant I'm sorry to say. Don't listen to her when she says that.

[missmoonshine]

Yes, everyone has there ups and downs mood wise thats why the experts are there to do there job and diagnose-to differentiate whats normal mood fluctuations and whats no. Hope that helps

[cajalion82]

hang in there!

[perpetuallysad]

Your mom is just using that label because she thinks it will hurt you. (That's my guess at least.) I have had to cut my mom out of my life because she was so abusive to me as a child and has continued the verbal/mental/emotional abuse into my life as an adult. For years I thought there must be something wrong that makes my mom not accept me for who I am, to never think I'm good enough. My t/pdoc has finally convinced me that she will NEVER accept me for who I am because that's who SHE is. Not having to deal with new abuse is so...refreshing! I have so much in my past to work on, its wonderful not to have to pile anything from the present onto my problems. I'm not saying you should cut your mom out of your life, but if she's not being kind and supportive, why do you talk to her? It took a long time for me to realize she couldn't hurt me anymore if I didn't let her (i.e. if I didn't call her, she couldn't say mean things to me). Maybe if you take a break from her, you will be able to deal with other things in your life instead of her adding on to your current problems?

[dreamsofflight]

I am bipolar, but I'm pretty much under control some irritability a little drama. My mother gets worried if I act *too* happy. I really am just happy, it's just that my default setting is chronic depression lol. This really pisses me off. She used to tell me I was too sensitive when I was a teen, when I showed too much emotion (sounds similiar to your mom) drove me crazy. Prob. would've brought up BP if that was something ppl really knew/talked about back then. also I wasn't diagnosed until i was 27 (which is avg. age I believe)
Sounds like your mother isn't very nice (sorry) and to zing you w/the BPD is really hurtful.
I agree w/farmergirl ppl tend to jump to conclusions!

I'm going to go and look at your profile.

[dreamsofflight]

whoops wish I'd read your profile 1st! when you said teen drama I thought you were a teen! LOL You've probably taken a *test* to see if you're bipolar. If you don't see that the questions relate to you and you've never had an *episode* plus your therapists don't see it I'd say your ok. Where do you think your mom came up w/the BP idea and then found out it would really push your buttons?

[goodgirl62]

Originally Posted by dreamsofflight

whoops wish I'd read your profile 1st! when you said teen drama I thought you were a teen! LOL You've probably taken a *test* to see if you're bipolar. If you don't see that the questions relate to you and you've never had an *episode* plus your therapists don't see it I'd say your ok. Where do you think your mom came up w/the BP idea and then found out it would really push your buttons?

Well, I get very defensive when it comes to my kids. Not defending their stupid choices but not allowing them to feel accepted into her so called perfect world. I fight back. For Gods sake can't my mother ever find one nice thing to say about me or my kids. Here's an example of my rage. My kids went to Fl. to visit my sister and one of my kids ate her son's German Chocolates. Now, we are talking about her son 11 and my son 9 and some freakin chocolates. So, they, my mother and my sister punished my son. Ok, I can live with that. I heard all about it on the phone. Then when I got into town it started all over again. Then when we were at a extended family function they started in on my son yet again! How many times are they going to punish, scold, yell at, complain to a 9 year old about the freakin chocolates. Now I just want to go out and by some and throw them at my sister, father and mother. No, I told my kids we are leaving and we did and we finished our vacation at Disney World. That's when she calls be bipolar. I am sorry but I can't take the constant fighting and verbal abuse and if they don't like me and me and my kids, well, they can all go to you know where. Sorry for the rant and thanks for listening. I feel so much better now lol.

(((One of my sisters kids is now a Catholic Nun and so my kids look like devils. I guess you just can't please them all.)))

[Anneinside]

It sounds like your mother doesn't understand what bipolar is and uses it to put you down. You haven't said anything that indicates you have bipolar but you have talked about having depression. Don't worry about what your mother said about you being bipolar... a psychiatrist is the one who determines that you have bipolar (no one IS bipolar, they HAVE bipolar). Sorry your mother is not nice to you.