[NuckingFutz]

Not feeling myself. Got a lot on my plate right now. Can't focus. Still scared since my neighbor knocked then walked right in. Can't even write like I usually do. Everything comes out wrong. Do not feel a part of anything.

[perpetuallysad]

I'm sorry you are feeling disconnected right now NF. Its just how I would do it, because I really don't handle people, especially pushy people, in my life very well-I would just flat out tell her that I'm not interested in being her friend and tell her not to come to your apartment anymore. I know that sounds mean and harsh and everything, but I figure when someone's making me terribly uncomfortable, which usually translates into terribly upset, I have the right to not allow them to be in my life. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Moreta]

If you feel the need to talk, send me a pm.

[englishteacher]

((((((NF)))))) Feel better...we value you.

[notz]

Ms Futz,

Keep your door locked (good habit anyway). If anyone knocks on your door, ask who it is before you open the door (another good habit). You are not obliged to open the door just because someone knocks on it. You can carry on a conversation with the door closed. The conversation may just be shorter which may be a good thing!

Get a peep hole and always use it. If you decide to open the door there are several things you might do. You can open it just a little to see and judge if you want further contact with them. This is even better if you have a chain on the door. It helps to create a "barrier" between you and the caller.

You can open the door a little wider so that more of your body can be seen but your hand remains on the door knob, another cautious barrier on your part. And then you may or may not invite them into your home.

It is indeed your home, your castle and YOU decide who comes in and YOU decide who leaves and when if it comes to that. If anyone violates your wishes, then you can escalate. But, be careful with that since you live there, you don't wish retaliation.

Use your good common sense. We love you and only wish the best for you.

Remember:

1. Always keep your door locked
2. Always use your peep hole
3. Always ask who is there
4. Decide whether to open the door or not
5. Partially open the door or
6. Open the door a little more but keep your hand on the doorknob or
7. Open the door and remove your hand from the doorknob to "signal" that YOU invite them in.

Stay safe.

[grizmom]

Originally Posted by NuckingFutz

Not feeling myself. Got a lot on my plate right now. Can't focus. Still scared since my neighbor knocked then walked right in. Can't even write like I usually do. Everything comes out wrong. Do not feel a part of anything.

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. I hope things look better soon

[NuckingFutz]

Thank you all for your responses. Will follow the safety guidelines. Just depressed after all that has happened. I guess all that stuff made me depressed in a way. Been sleeping and isolating a lot to the point where I may need a meds dosage change since I have no problem sleeping. Also one of the really neat things about you all on here is that we know taking our meds isn't enough. We all get on here and ask for help, then we offer help. You all have also taught me the meaning of emotional support. I think that is so great.

[Moreta]

Also one of the really neat things about you all on here is that we know taking our meds isn't enough.

Don't you wish it was enough though? I sure do. They could call it Emoticon. Emotional support in a pill form. heh.

I actually had a discussion about this topic with my T this week. I told him that I couldn't handle being around random stupid people, which is why I'd rather stay at home. Then he told me that there are stupid people pretty much everywhere, so I can't really "avoid" these people all of my life. Then we had a discussion about not internalizing others emotions, or letting what they say upset me. Also, to not rage on them or let their actions determine mine.

[jennaorgana]

even more hugs from me