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Apr 11, 2010, 11:59 AM
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i dont know what to do. i really lost in this. i have bi polar disorder, and i have had it for awhile, and my recently ex girlfriend keeps saying she wants to be with me still, and i do to.. but i really dont want to do anything to hurt her, bc i can never tell what could happen.. and she is the last one i would ever want to hurt. please, any advice would help. im just scared of hurting her more.. and its killing me.
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Apr 11, 2010, 12:04 PM
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if you dont mind me asking, what is it you did to her that worries you about getting back with her?
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#3
Apr 11, 2010, 12:09 PM
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well it could be my disorder, but we started fighting alot, and once i lost it and put my elbow through her wall.. i would never hit her.. but i hate showing any anger around her, and i am always angry.. and i cant control myself sometimes and i can say things i later regret. idk but we used to argue over stupid stuff, and she would start crying, then i would feel like even more crap. i dont want to hurt her, and i always seem to wether i want to or not.
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Apr 11, 2010, 12:10 PM
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if its just the fact that you have bp I wouldnt let thu stop you. She already knows what she has in you and I hear you when you say that you dont want to hurt her. I sometimes feel extremely guilty about what my husband has to put up with with me and my bp. Maybe you could try therapy together to find ways that you can deal with it within the relationship? You cant leave yourself all alone because of fear of what you might do. People get hurt when no bp is involved to. Its just the risk we take in love.
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Apr 11, 2010, 12:13 PM
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my husband doesnt have bp and has put his fist through many walls lol dont be so hard on yourself but of course do keep sight of the anger issues you have. I think couple therapy would be good for you both
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Apr 11, 2010, 12:14 PM
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go for it dude
love will always find a way
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#7
Apr 11, 2010, 12:15 PM
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she said she wanted to try that. i just feel like crap bc she has to put up with me.. i feel like an unnecessary burden.
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Apr 11, 2010, 12:20 PM
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thnx for the advice. im just lost, idk what to do. but ty
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#9
Apr 11, 2010, 12:22 PM
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well then she sounds like a smart girl and knows what she wants.
You are NOT by any stretch of the imgination, an unecessary burden and she certainly doesnt think so if she wants to give it another go... and she already knows you. Go for it man, also try couple therapy like she has already suggested. You can do it .... you are not a burden... BP does not mean you have to shy from relationships. dont be scared... this girl obviously LOVES you... dont let that slip away  You will regret it if you do 
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#10
Apr 11, 2010, 12:23 PM
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no problem... keep us updated
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#11
Apr 11, 2010, 12:27 PM
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Hi am a very angry person, and especially with my boyfriand, explain ur situation so that she understands more, and find a technique which may help you with ur anger, eg, walk, listen to some music etc. dont think coz of ur bypolar that u cant be with some1 who you love, hope this helps keep me posterd goodluck xx
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Apr 11, 2010, 03:22 PM
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If you are always angry and starting to get physical you might want to get anger management and also counseling.
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