[sweetstr909]

Today is my husbands birthday and I should be happy and able to allow him freedom to spend his day as he wishes, but my mind is racing and Im upset and I keep getting great ideas to improve his birthday that turn into a fight. It's like I am watching myself start fights and ruin his birthday but cant stop it and just enjoy the day. But in my mind I have already planned the day out and its not going the way I want it too. Today I have yelled, cried, laughed, and threaten to leave all within a hour

[romanjames2004]

Im very sory that you feel that way. I know what your going through. I pre-live things the way I want them to happen, before they actualy happen and it always gets me down. It's like I always feel that I am being selfish and turning it from that person's b-day to its all about me day!

It's normal. What I like to do, and maybe this can help you, is when everything is not going the way I planned I sit down and think about it and I just take a few deep breaths and figure that the day isn't going to go forever and that every hting will be different tomorow.

I hope this little technique helps you out.

Roman.

[sweetstr909]

Thank you I think that will help wish I would have found your reply earlier

[BrittneyNicole]

I'm so very sorry on how your feeling Sweetstr909.
I feel like that on holidays, and birthdays, it happens to mostlly all of us.
We try to make the best out of the special days, that we put so much effort, and it comes out "okay".

Talk to your Husband about this, he will understand on why your so flustrated.

I wish you the best of luck.