Having work troubles.......

One of the Inspectors went on maternity leave in August and I inherited one of her files. She completely f'd up on it and now I have to fix it. Just needed to vent because I'm about to loose my s***! What bothers me the most about it is my supervisor thinks that she's a superstar employee, but in reality she just giggles and flirts with him and she's a lazy twit. My supervisor hasn't even acknowledged the work I've done on it and/or how badly she f'd up. I am soooo glad I'm working out of town next week!

Mmmmmm now that I reread this post I think It's time to make an appointment with my therapist before I snap at work!

I suppose women can be FDBs too? Yeah, why not...WHAT A COUPLE OF FDBs!!! hope that helps

Thanks PT52! That totally made me see the humor in the whole situation.

hi blueoctober, damn sorry your work enviorment seems to be a flippin popularity contest....hate flirty b!!ches...makes us all seem dim as women, god i wont even get started!!! Hang in there, your hard work WILL be acknowledged as good, and appreciated, umm ...ill be wishing HER to gain 100 pounds, and get acne for ya!!! take care my friend

You made me laugh out loud Leah!!! I completely agree that women that use their sexuality to get ahead at work drive me up the wall. I'm lucky because the field that I work in is very male dominant, so most of the women that I work with are tough and are not giggly little school girls.

Help, I am channeling my grandmother and I cant stop!!!
She always used to say, "Just be glad you're not crippled."
I hated that! It didn't do a damned thing to make me feel a bit better about my situation or what I was feeling.
But then I was dx BP1, and then my sub compact was squished between two very large trucks at a traffic light. Some days I use my cane but most days I have to use my walker. The last MRI showed that my tail bone is separating from my hip and that I have degenerative disk disease in the last two areas of my spine that are asymptomatic. Now that my BPD is under control, I have to retrain for a career that will be wheel chair accessible. As it is, I go in for injections every week to keep the level of pain manageable enough so that I don't have to rely to heavily on narcotics as they will effect my BPD and ruin my liver.
I went from teaching genetics at the university and doing endocrinology studies that are published in the national library of medicine to nearly being bed ridden laying on a bag of frozen peas (stays cold longer than the cold packs). I have to wait every other day for my daughter to come over and help me get in and out of the bathtub. I fall so often that even though I am in Florida, I have to wear long skirts or pants and long sleeves so people wont think that I am a beaten woman.
I am 40. I will be wheel chair bound within the next five years and there is nothing I can do about it. I miss having a career and I miss having my independence. I miss taking a shower. I miss washing the dishes without falling on the floor and taking 20 minutes to get back up. I miss having co-workers. I miss being intellectually challenged. I miss my students. I miss my lab. At this point, I am little more than a drain on societal resources. Its really hard to keep my chin up. Its hard to stay in the solution. Its hard to keep fighting. On my really bad days, I struggle for hours to answer the question, what's the point?
So, in the words of my 95 year old grandmother who still cooks, cleans, showers, lives by herself and walks without assistance,....
"Be glad you're not crippled."
(sorry, I couldn't resist... don't you hate it when you start channeling your elders)
hugs, Colleen

Colleen, that's awful that your previous career wouldn't accommodate your disability and I hope you find something that you enjoy just as much.

I really wasn't going for the sympathy vote... I could just hear my grandmother's voice in the back of my head... "Be glad you're not crippled." "Well, I am, Grams, NOW WHAT!" I hope if you can take anything away from my pathetic little story, it would be this. Enjoy your day and enjoy this moment for this too, shall pass. Those petty little women will come and go throughout life no matter where you find yourself and you have a choice whether you are going to let them take up space in your head rent free. If so, and you have a resentment, you have empowered them and they have won the battle....
So, go win the war. Find your attitude of gratitude and have a nice day. That should piss them off but good!

PTK, I just get disgusted when I hear employers doing such things. My dad was physically disabled from the time he was 14 and he went on to be a lawyer.

It's a topic that hits close to home. Work knows about my diagnosis and there is another person that was diagnosed prior to me. This person has just come back from leave and they are trying to push him out. I know they will have a fight on their hands, but we shouldn't have to go through that. If someone was on leave because he or she had cancer a big party would be thrown for them. Come back from being on leave for a mental illness and most people can't look you in the eye.

My grandmother lived to 94 and I hear her voice in my head a lot She would say things that were inappropriate (to my generation), but in her time were acceptable. She would also say some very wise things, and comforting...the fact that my four sibs and I could never settle on one career wasn't bad in her eyes; she would just say, You kids are so good at so many things, it's just hard for you to pick one. I bet my grandma would have some choice words for all the FDBs in the world who make it so hard for us to have a career...

Actually, Grandma is alive and well today... out with the rest of the family in NH having a lobster dinner for her 95th birthday! She still tells me, "Be glad you're not crippled," even when I went to see her a few months ago and she needed to go shopping. I had to sit and rest, using the walker is exhausting and the pain wears me down too. I told her that I am going to move back to NH in January to be near my mom, that I need help. Grandma replied, just as serious as a heart attack, "well, I know its hard but just be glad you're not crippled."

?!?!?!? Really??? 40 and using a walker, Gram? Wow!

heehee...guess if you live as long as your grandmother has, you earn the right to be ornery

It sucks that so much stigma and discrimination still exist, and that there is this double-standard surrounding "physical" illness and mental illness. I hope your colleague is able to stand up to your employers (even though, as you say, he shouldn't have to!) and that they back down.

I also hope that the annoying, incompetent, flirty co-worker who left you with her f'd up files gets her come-uppance!!!! Sorry for your stress!! (((((((blueoctober)))))))

Thanks for your post sundog. I completely agree. My co-worker has only been back for 2 weeks and they have already met with him to "reevaluate" his job description. He had been taken of nights 7 years ago when he was first diagnosed (we work shift work) and NOW 7 years later they want to discuss whether or not he can be classified as an Inspector.

I already knew that my employer was capable of this, so it came as no surprise, but it's different when it happens to a friend and also when he has the same diagnosis. We are part of a union, so I hope they can help him out. He so doesn't deserve it and has enough on his plate coming back from a leave. It's disgusting.