[Moose72]

I'm in a manic-ish phase since a month ago. I've still got my ex boyfriend for sex but I've also seen others. No sex though yet. The ex doesn't believe I'm bipolar but I sometimes can really want sex - not to mention at the moment i've been anxious and irritable and creative and happy... I pretty much have my mind set on sex with him to tonight - this is annoying as it's only 11 am! I also have little patience for waiting in line or for people turning in front of me while driving or whatever.

[wing]

Sounds to me like hypomania, moose. Be careful with the others your seeing, in fact, if you value your relationship with your bf, i'd stop seeing others completely since you know you can't trust yourself when hypersexual. Instead, wait for him, I'm sure he'll be pleased with this particular aspect of your hypo state. Just watch out that it doesn't progress to a full-blown mania.

[Moose72]

He's my ex boyfriend. Just FB. That's why I'm seeing others. He's fine with sex and likes it a lot but hasn't replied to me about to tonight. Wanted to watch a movie.

[donut]

Hi Moose

Do you have a diagnosis of bipolar? It doesn't sound too manic to me, though I am not a doc. Could be mild hypomania.

[Moose72]

Yup. Bipolar I. 4 years now.

[sugahorse1]

You need to get these urges under control, for the sake of any relationships to flourish.
Sex is a very intimate game, as much as we sometimes like to think it is just physical. It does affect your soul and ultimately your self-worth.
Please look after yourself.

[Moose72]

Gee that helps.

[sugahorse1]

I really apologise if that wasn't what you were wanting to hear - I was just being realistic. A good pdoc will notice that this is an indication of mania, or at minimum hypomania, and will medicate you accordingly.

[PT52]

Hi Moose72...
sugahorse makes a valid point. Mania can absolutely cause someone to have a stronger sex drive and make risky decisions regarding sexual partners. There are other psychological reasons someone might seek out multiple partners or have indiscretions. From personal experience, I know that it really does cause emotional damage in the long run, and that a long term, emotionally intimate relationship can provide much more satisfying sex.

I hope that you are able to look at your situation from a long-term perspective and make wise decisions.

[venusss]

Originally Posted by sugahorse

You need to get these urges under control, for the sake of any relationships to flourish.
Sex is a very intimate game, as much as we sometimes like to think it is just physical. It does affect your soul and ultimately your self-worth.
Please look after yourself.

This age of the Sex and the City. Nobody was telling those chicks to "get help".

Moose... I also think sex is a very intimate thing... but if you are not the relationship type and have no problem with separating sex from real relationships (problem is many cannot do it and get their feelings hurt).

It doesn't have to be mania... it might be a life phase, where you just want to experiment and have fun. As long as you don't harm yourself and others and stay safe, it's perfectly fine.

*hugs*

[Moose72]

I'm already on several meds for bipolar. Wa
ting sex more I think is a symptom. The FB is good for that but we're broken up. I need to try new relationships. Just so happens I'm bipolar too.

[blueoctober]

Hi Moose72;I can also get hypersexual when I'm hypomanic. I'm not in a relationship either and it's tough when one isn't. Sex is a great stress reliever, mood lifter etc. and I truly get what it's like when you don't have a significant other. It sucks.

[Moose72]

Thanks blueoctober.

[sugahorse1]

I know i need to keep my hypomania under control, as nice as it may feel in the long run. And having a steady relationship, as hard as it may be with BP, really has helped me to keep going. The support from an intimate and loving relationship is invaluable in beating the beast that is BP

[Lexaproman]

Just for my own clarification I have always understood hypomania to be a milder version of full blown mania. Thus the "pre-fix" hypo.

Anyway Moose is looking to calm herself which I totally understand. Hypersexual tension is enormously powerful.

But know this Moose the sex you seek will never, ever live up to the expectations and will never ever satisfy the irrational desires you have.

Oh and they are irrational, I have them all the time. You can believe or more accurately convince yourself whatever you want but you are just creating the run away train syndrome.

You don't seem to see the bigger picture or so it seems that you don't. This is all you think of yourself? You just want a booty call? You just want wham bam thank you mam? Because guys who are looking to give that to you look at women who are available for that as trash and a just a piece of ###! I know this because I am a man and I hear how men talk about women like that when they are not around. They're the kind of men who will pay someone for a quickie if women up for a freebie aren't around. And speaking of that:

Holy cow my friend you are exhibiting the same mindset as women who become prostitutes and strippers. Trust me I have done work with them. I'm no doctor but I was married to someone like you and I learned a ton about these patterns.

Oh and like I said I battle with them myself. I feel much better not giving in to the destructive urges.

Hey call me silly or out of touch but the statistics and anonymous data doesn't lie.

Sounds like you need more than meds.

[sugahorse1]

I really believe chatting to a T and getting to the underlying issues involved will go a long way towards you feeling more fulfilled from the inside.

[Moose72]

Jeeze!. I get a revved up sex drive for a bit and I'm on the path to being a hooker?!

I thought "hmm. Hypomania.... Or maybe I was ovulating...". A guy has thoughts like this and it's par for the course!

I have a FB relationship with my ex because there are issues that make recontinuing the relationship put of the question for me fir the long-term. Finding someone else to date is so crazy then? Nope. Having sex with both? Nope. If a guy did what I am doing no biggie. It's not whether I can deal with a FB relationship- my issues with him have been resolved. It's whether or not he can, once I move on to a new relationship.

[sugahorse1]

OK - then let's get back to the beginning: what is your actual question? What can we help with?
We are not judging you, but people here are just trying to offer you some form of advice and support, which you are evidently taking the wrong way.

I'm personally feeling a bit offended by your replies. Maybe these concerns of yours also need to be raised in the "sexual" forum.

We only have the best intentions for each other; we're a very supportive forum and were only reaching out to you in the same vein.

[Ryask]

other people offended by reply's? really? cause i didn't see moose calling anyone a prostitute.

[Moose72]

I didn't call anyone a prostitute. I was told I was going there!

Yes this is about bipolar if being hypomanic lately is related to this.

Sugar, this is why I will not go to any "groups". I thought the board would be a good go-btween for feedback with others who might have the same hypersexual issues as part of being bipolar.

[cybermember]

Moose, I feel you posted in the right forum as hyper sexuality is a symptom of mania if you have bipolar. Are you in contact with your pdoc to discuss med adjustments? I think this would be in your best interest before things really get out of hand. Been there done that.

[Moose72]

I see my pdoc tomorrow actually. She's aware of my mood in the last month and put me on then took me off seroquel. (side effects)

[sewerrats]

Im just getting a plane ticket ,i will be there in 12 hours , dont start without me.

[cybermember]

Hope your appt. with your pdoc goes well tomorrow. Hopefully she'll suggest a med that works well with tolerable/minimal side affects.

Keep us posted.

[Moose72]

Lolol at the plane ticket.

I'm still on lithium and Ativan. My primary is testing me for stds now as I went in for pain. PB will never hear from me again if it comes back positive. I have only had him for a partner for yhelast six months.