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Dec 06, 2010, 08:59 AM
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I posted earlier about my husband. I am SOO angry right now! The way he keeps speaking to me and treating me is just plain abusive and I am beginning to not like him very much. He is being selfish and damn right rude.
 He is making feel like i want to leave him. I cant explain how angry I am right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He just walked out with his friend after playing video games and seeming fine but as soon as I talk to him he puts on this stressed face and acts like i am hurting him. I HAVENT DONE ANYTHING TO HIM! He is using me like his own personal punch bag and I cant make him stop
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#2
Dec 06, 2010, 09:29 AM
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Hi there,
I don't quite know your history, so please forgive me. Which one of you is dx'd bipolar? I'm sorry you are feeling this way. It definitely sounds like you guys should try therapy too though, before your relationship is too far gone to salvage. You will learn skills to better communicate, and in general it will improve your relationship. Don't give up on this ...
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"I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
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#3
Dec 06, 2010, 09:56 AM
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Thanks
 I have Bp... and he was diagnosed with depression after he was told he couldnt work again Its so hard right now but I am willing to work at it. I think therapy is a good idea.
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Dec 06, 2010, 10:07 AM
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just spoke with him on the phone and he is acting normal again... anyone would think he had bp
 I am going to retreat to upstaoirs as he is on his way back with his friend... cant handle seeing him anyhmore today ...
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#5
Dec 06, 2010, 10:09 AM
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I posted on your other thread and understand the situation better.
Please ensure your husband has some sort of routine in his life, even though he is not working. I'm not sure what his physical situation is, but there has to be something healthy he can stay occupied with. And playing video games all day is NOT healthy. Then you need to be honest with yourself too - you need to ensure your needs are met. WANTS are negotiable. Can the two of you complement each other in your relationship? But you've come so far, you need to do everything possible to save it. I'm not sure if you're in therapy yourself, but it really helps when you are dx'd with BP. I strongly advise you see a T. You may learn enough about yourself in these sessions to be able to fix your relationship (My bf would not attend therapy if I begged him, lol!)
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"I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
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Dec 06, 2010, 10:11 AM
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emotional abuse is never acceptable, imho. as you stated "it doesn't make sense". that's because it doesn't make sense.
i hope you all can get help you need to get at the root of the problem. 
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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#7
Dec 06, 2010, 10:22 AM
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Thanks guys
I have calmed down somewhat now but feel so upset. I am going to leave it for today and drag him to the doctors tomorrow kicking and screaming if I have to. I really understand what he is going through but I'm not willing to put up with his crap if he isnt willing to do something about it. He is aware of his current mental staus but seems to be wallowing in self pity. I too cant work at the moment so I really do understand but he is acting like its my fault. Sorry to go on and thank you for your support! |
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#8
Dec 06, 2010, 12:34 PM
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Thinking about you hon, I hope things smooth over soon♥
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 DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD  "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB...
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#9
Dec 07, 2010, 12:01 AM
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Good luck, marriage is so important. It's a big decision to decide to give it all up and one you have to live with for the rest of your life.
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