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#1
Aug 23, 2011, 10:31 AM
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I hate it when i get needy, i hate expecting s0 dang much fr0m my bf, he has en0ugh issues of his own. I'm scared that One day he'l tire of my drama and marry a n0rmal girl... Tired of sending him crazy texts, WHY CAN'T I JUST BE A N0RMAL GF? End rant
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Aug 23, 2011, 10:39 AM
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If he truly loves you, he will accept everything about you.
Has he threatened you yet about ending the relationship? You have BP so you will never be a "normal" person, but I have to ask you what do you consider "normal"? Whenever I use that term with my husband, he always says, "Who is normal and who are we to decide what is normal or not normal?"
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:05 AM
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He's NEVER threatened me with any kinda bs, it's just what i fear. If i get 2 much he n0rmally takes a breather till im d0ne trippin. Normal? Heck idk, taking a bunch of pills twice a day sure aint! Btw he says he wouldn't be interested if i was 'n0rmal' but i'm still scared that that is what he longs for. I'm driving myself up the wall, thanks for taking the time to resp0nd tho, i appreciate it much.
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:13 AM
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Do you consider a diebetic abnormal because they have to take pills or insulin? Or does a cancer patient not qualify as "normal" because they have to take meds., go through chemo. and radiation?
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:19 AM
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Its just that i have these days where i NEED him,need him so dang much i physically ache. I want him to hold me and give me a gazilli0n reaz0ns why he loves me, i feel starved... I wish i didn't get like that,i wish i could be 100% sure that he loves me 100% of the time... He already thinks i'm to0 dependant ( he's ryt btw) i d0n't still wanna be clingy, i make myself sick...
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:29 AM
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:34 AM
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Now i just wanna cry, i get worked up over n0thing, feel so stupid, i d0n't even kn0w what a n0rmal healthy relati0nship is, my 1st bf was abusive,so i can't c0mpare the two... I just wanna SCREAM! Thank u btw Sun, really,thanks for responding...
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:42 AM
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I don't think there is a normal healthy relationship out there for anybody. I have BP Disorder which to you isn't normal. My husband doesn't have any friends because he has always been a loner. I knew this about him before I married him. It's just a part of him and who he is, and I accept that fact and love him anyhow. Just try to trust your boyfriend if you can and never feel stupid for being dependent on anyone. We all have to be dependent on someone who we know will take good care of us no matter what.
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Aug 23, 2011, 12:27 PM
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You're n0t making me cry,d0n't worry,thanks for sharing with me,it means alot to me. You're ryt, i should trust him, us... I'm going to try
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Aug 23, 2011, 03:03 PM
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 (((((Trippin)))))There is really nothing wrong with feeling intensely needy from time to time. I'm sure there are other times where you are also looking after his interests - loving him practically - that will keep him investing in your relationship. You need to be there for each other, and the more you get to understand each other's needs, the better you will be able to support each other. I'm praying for you, my friend.
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Aug 23, 2011, 04:10 PM
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yeah the texting should stop. guys have crazy texts from girls. just chill out. talk to a therapist or friend, guys are really on another playing field when it comes to being evolved about mental illness. they just dont get it all.
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:00 PM
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You're aware that you can be a bit clingy at times, and as everyone knows, "admitting you have a problem is the first step".
 Your bf seems like a decent person. He clearly loves you for you. He said that he wouldn't be interested in you if you were "normal". Remember that next time you begin to worry about him leaving; you have evidence that he loves you, not despite your quirks, but because of them! If you are not in therapy, you should consider it. Your therapist would help you recover from the abuse you endured, allowing you to be a healthier individual capable of forming healthier relationships. I wish you the best.
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Aug 23, 2011, 11:15 PM
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Thank you all for your kind words, i've got s0me thinking to do...
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Aug 24, 2011, 04:58 AM
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totally agree with Secretum that T is a really good idea. When I had therapy I found out that alot of my problems came from me not believing that I was loveable. Maybe you can learn to believe that he loves you even with your BP.
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Aug 24, 2011, 06:20 AM
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I could menti0n it to T, but i was actually thinking of quitting T...
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