[astone131]

I had surgery yesterday in Indianapolis which is about an hour away from me. My mom took me. She had plans to go to the casino and need to leave by 5. She left me up there all alone with no ride I had to call my husband to come get me because the casino was more important. She has been up for days. She has been really selfish lately. Its all about her. I have thought she was bipolar for years but she refuses to get help for her bipolar and her gambling problem. She said she doesnt want to take any more pills. But my question is how can you abandon your own daughter while she is in the hospital having surgery?

[Anneinside]

There is no good answer to that question. If she is bipolar and off her meds then she isn't thinking straight. I'm glad your husband could come for you.

[Astridetal]

In all honesty, it sounds like your mom is more likely just being an *** than bipolar. Bipolar has to include lots of hyperness, nont sleeping, talkativeness, etc. It seems from what you describe that her gambling problem may've caused her irritability. Gambling and other addictions often include impulsive behavior to get what they want. I am sorry however that your mom acted this way.

[Secretum]

Your mom certainly sounds manic. But, well she may not have control over having bipolar, she does have the choice to get treatment, which she declined. Maybe once she is back to her baseline you can discuss this incident with her. It definitely is not right for a mother to abandon her daughter when she is having surgery. Hopefully your mom will understand that, see how out-of-control her behavior is at times, and get help for her issues.

On a different note, how are you doing now? How long will it take you to recover from the surgery?

[GreenIvy]

Wow. That must have been tough. I am glad your husband could come get you. I am sorry about your mom and her leaving you there. I hope your surgery went well and glad that you are home safe.

[astone131]

I am doing good thanks for asking. In alittle pain but nothing to bad.

[lostbythesea]

sorry to hear that. hope you have a speedy recovery.

(((((Astone))))))

My mother is much the same. I have had to learn to either have her in my life and learn to not let her "stuff" affect me, or not have her around. So she is my only parent I have chosen to keep her, and try as hard as I can to remind myself that she is Ill, and let is slide off my back. Easier said than done I know. I am sending you all my healing thoughts ((((Astone))))) I hope your recovery goes good, and that you can find a way to heal these wounds.

[manicminer]

I know that before I was disgnosed I had similar tendencies. It was all about me and what I wanted to do. I was obsessed with a girl (mainly the sex). We went to the gym together in the morning, worked together all day, then I went to her house for the evening until I had to have my parent's vehicle home by 11.
It got so bad that one evening my mom called me saying there was an emergency and I had to get home. When i got there in a panic and asked what was wrong, she said, "I just thought you should be home." After my first year of college with the same girl and doing the same thing that summer, my Dad and I got in an arguement about it which ended in him calling me an arrogant a'hole.

[wing]

((((((astone))))) I would rely more on my husband and less on my mom. Whatever the reason, she is not to be counted upon for much and I would let her fend for herself and hit bottom. Then maybe she'll deal with her issues. She's toxic to you right now, and nobody needs that kind of relationship.

I'm glad you're doing OK after your surgery.

[popeye]

Originally Posted by Astridetal

In all honesty, it sounds like your mom is more likely just being an *** than bipolar. Bipolar has to include lots of hyperness, nont sleeping, talkativeness, etc. It seems from what you describe that her gambling problem may've caused her irritability. Gambling and other addictions often include impulsive behavior to get what they want. I am sorry however that your mom acted this way.

I don't have anything to add to your post. I agree with you.

[Phoenix_1]

Speaking as a mother of two daughters, age 31 and 33, I'd say your mother needs a swift kick. I would never desert my kids like that. Thank goodness your husband could come.
((((Hugs))))

I agree with Anika! That's usually how I've had to deal with my Mum. But there is always the hope that she will recover. My mother only recovered after she hit rock bottom, but she's been doing great since then as far as her bipolar & drug addiction are concerned! Sober (except for her prescriptions in the rx amounts) for probably about 6 months, give or take!!